Greetings to all of my loyal readers! Happy Holiday season! I’m sure you are all in full swing with the changing of the seasons, darkness coming much sooner and those *much* too-early commercials that are decking our halls even before Halloween!
Today I bring you a message of Balance. Most of the time, when life feels overwhelming, it’s not so much the circumstances beyond our control as it is our sense of balance being disrupted. It’s easy to be too focused on one thing. For many of us, it’s the physical. We obsess over calories, clothing sizes, hairstyles, the perfect little black dress, and so on. It’s easy for us to become fixated on these things because they are so physical, meaning they are highly visible, and we are capable of making adjustments, indulging our ego-self’s perfectionism. The main reason we fixate on these things, isn’t their importance. It’s actually the illusion that we have control over them.
True, you can change the color of your hair, eyes, and skin tint at will. But think about it for a second. What is it that we are really striving for in the creation of our outside world? Peace? Hmm, I think not. A feeling of peace is often something we feel when we are in an environment that is to our liking, but think about being in that perfect environment right now and let yourself really feel that sensation. Everything is as it ‘should’ be. Nothing needs to be adjusted or changed. Soothing, yes? Maybe for about 15 minutes. Then what? They the mind kicks in, and you begin to think about texting a friend about your newfound serenity. You wonder if your boss got your last email. You realize what day it is, and your thoughts turn toward things like your bank balance, when the credit card payments are due and a score of other, seemingly controllable, outside elements of your life.
What happened? Paradise was shattered so easily in just a short time. And it had nothing to do with your outside world, and EVERYTHING to do with your inner world.
When I tell my listeners and readers to ‘work on themselves,’ what I am really asking is for everyone to take the time to be still and quiet in their own mind, so they can collect themselves on a spiritual level. This makes the outside world change- or maybe it just looks a little differently than it did just a few minutes ago, prior to your stillness.
In order to ‘Walk with one foot in each world,’ as my tagline says, you must have a consciousness of both! You cannot ignore the physical for too long without losing a sense of balance, nor can you drift in the spiritual for any length of time without losing a sense of the physical. In order to be in a state of balance, you must first achieve a sense of your own self. Are you aware of how your body feels? Are your emotions being suppressed by a false belief that you’re holding? In order to be a whole Human Being, you must also acknowledge and spend time with the Divinity that dwells within you. This is also the path to developing psychically. As you begin to honor both of your selves, your intuition is suddenly more clear. Your physical self will become more familiar with that physical feeling that comes with receiving your inner guidance. Your guidance will become familiar with that mental resistance that comes with the physical fear of knowingness. Your sides must become friends with one another in order for both to function properly!
Example? When I know my guidance is telling me to call someone, my mental consciousness immediately starts listing the reasons I should not. My stomach suddenly feels as if something is pressing against it. What does this tell me? It tells me that I am receiving true guidance. How do I know? Through observation. I’ve meditated until my own name made no sense to me anymore, and all of the physical was called into question. On the flip side, I’ve ignored my divinity and fell hard down the physical pains of a reality that existed in the absence of any inner world. Each felt different. I noted these things. I wrote about them in a journal. Then I began to allow both of these sides to be ‘active’ at the same time, and I noted the changes I felt on all levels. I began to see the physical reactions to my guidance, and when the physical world was overwhelming, suddenly the whispers of my guidance were more clear. Each held out a hand, and allowed the other to take hold of it. I now walk in both worlds– and I always have to be mindful whenever one feels a bit heavier than the other. I simply ‘check in’ with myself, and follow my guidance, allowing for all of my feelings to co-exist instead of competing.
How beautiful is it to know that we do not have to be one thing or another, but can be many things, all existing simultaneously, each with full knowledge of the others? Life becomes more of an experience when all of our selves have a steady voice.
Once I had mastered this art, I was able to have a greater understanding of all things! Another illustration? No problem! I am a Medium and I am a Witch. Neither of these is easily explained, or accepted in most social circles in modern society. I was very unhappy, feeling that I had to deny these essential parts of myself nearly everywhere I went. I had to hide myself from the feeling of rejection that was certain to come if I revealed either of these. I recognized that I was in a state of imbalance, and I started to make my connection between my guidance and my physical selves to find the answer. It was explained to me by one of my People, that sometimes we deny ourselves a part of who we are, due to outside circumstances, or the expectations of others who are close to us. I was shown that it is not necessary for me to deny who I was, only that I should be mindful and respectful of how I express it. This brought a whole new perspective to my mind that helps me tremendously. I am never NOT a Witch and I am never NOT a Medium! It’s just that in some circumstances, I see the value in keeping that fire burning quietly within myself, rather than casting it to the wind, where it can do some damage to myself, my relationships or others. I am not hiding, and I am not denying. I am always FULLY who I am. And with that, I felt the balance return, and I felt peace.
So, my dear readers, this is the message for today. You are always all of your selves, and none of them needs to be sacrificed, or suppressed in order for the others to exist. They are the instruments in the symphony that is you.