Mediumship means respect for those in both worlds.
Not everyone who has psychic abilities uses them correctly– and by correctly, I mean with respect. It’s one of the things I find most horrifying about the spiritual community–the assumption that just because you have the ability to look into someone’s energy field, you can do it whenever you like, with or without a person’s consent.
Why is this an issue? Because it’s like snooping around someone’s home. It is an invasion of their privacy.
It has been said that with great power comes great responsibility. Yes, it does feel good to be able to help someone heal through the gift of mediumship, however, it should never be used as a way to appear superior to others. Most of us who do this professionally understand that these gifts should always be used with gratitude and reverence, but there are many whose motivation comes from a place that satisfies their own need to feel special and important.
I happen to be a Lisa Williams fan, and the reason is this: when she asks that famous question, “do you want to know everything?” she is demonstrating her respect for the person she is doing the reading for, and for the Spirit World.
It is not okay to use your abilities to read someone
without their permission.
Whenever I have the opportunity to explain that I am a medium, I am absolutely sure to include this piece of the puzzle, because the first assumption after someone hears this is that I am already downloading information about them and their loved ones in Spirit. I’m not. When you come to me for a reading, you’ve given me your consent to merge with your energy and talk to your Spirit people. I wouldn’t walk through your front door uninvited, so why would I invade your energy without being asked?
One of the biggest responsibilities with mediumship is trust. With the greatest respect for my clients, I say this- do not go to a medium if you are not comfortable with opening up or feel you have something to hide. Your Spirit people may share personal information that is for you only, however, through the process of mediumship, the medium will be witness to this information as well. In order for you have the best experience possible, I feel that it is necessary to bring down your walls. Most of my clients have told me that my energy puts them at ease and they feel very comfortable with opening up, which I take as a very high compliment. If you decide to have a reading with me, I hope this will be your experience as well.
My process for mediumship begins with a prayer to my guides to help me bring my vibration up to meet theirs so that I may be able to be as clear as possible. It also includes a petition to Spirit for permission to make contact with your Spirit people so that I may be a clear channel for the information they would like to pass to my clients. I could not fathom doing a reading without asking for this. When someone comes to me with a specific request to speak to someone in particular, I shift my energy and ask, “If it is okay, I would like to speak to ‘____’. I never approach the situation with an air of entitlement. That would lower my vibration and invite in energies that neither me nor my clients would want to commune with. This is where it makes a huge difference in having an ethical, respectful medium as opposed to someone who uses their gifts for personal satisfaction. If the medium has only the purest intention when stepping into their gift, you will receive only the highest and best guidance, as well messages from the other side. Make this your #1 priority when selecting a medium. If you do this, you will be in good hands.
I consider the ability to merge with Spirit to be a privilege, and treat it with reverence and respect. It is my promise that if you come to me for a reading, you will feel the peace and presence of mind that you deserve. And although I won’t word it quite the same way, in my own way I will ask you if you would like to know everything.
This post is dedicated to Lisa Williams, and to my own mentor, Jackie Waitkus, for being bright, shining examples for the purity of Spirit Communication. Thank you from the bottom of my heart for teaching me to have the same reverence and respect for those in the Spirit World, as I would for those in this one.
Confessions of a Spirit Messenger 