The Price of Authenticity

•September 19, 2018 • Leave a Comment

Authenticity is a huge theme in my life, as I believe it is for many of you who follow my writing.  I’d like to share a bit of my own journey with you as a way of connecting to those of you who I don’t know personally.

If you haven’t yet seen the movie, “I Feel Pretty,” go watch it.  It’s the perfect expression of how we hold ourselves back.  We go through life like Mockingbirds, singing the songs we hear back to those who enjoy the sound of their own song.  We strive to be ‘good enough’ to run with the people we see as ideal, when, in fact, they are anything but-  because they are part of the same energy.

As a child, I remember being confused a lot.  I have always had a sense for what is going on beneath the surface with others.  I’d try my hardest to quiet that inner knowing and go with what my 5 senses told me was real.  Every time I believed something based on that logic, I’d find myself regretting it.  I couldn’t explain what I knew, and that made it more confusing.  I once remember telling a family member that I “used to be big (as in an adult)” and remember being told that I was wrong about that. This made me doubt myself.

I remember another instance when I was in 5th grade, and the teacher had left the room.  I was fooling around, like all the other kids, and when the teacher came back in she glared at me and I felt an inch tall.  She later told my parents that she came back to the classroom to an ‘ungodly’ laugh.  It was mine.  Another instance that planted a seed of doubt, and this time, silence.

Sometimes when I ask Spirit for help with a situation, I am shown these memories in my mind’s eye.  Spirit communicates using images that we understand, even if it feels like a memory, which surfaces out of nowhere.  Like most people, I wanted to do something constructive with it and I tried that first.  It soon became clear that there was no task to be completed.  Instead, I was to see where I had learned to be inauthentic.

These instances instilled in me a fear and a secret hurt that it was wrong for me to be who I am.  In the first instance, I learned that my truth wouldn’t be believed, and it made me feel insignificant.  In the second, my joy that was expressed in the form of laughter was not only unwelcome, but somehow offensive and ugly.

I learned to hide myself, and that I didn’t belong.  There are more instances, including the one where I excitedly told my class about the time my grandmother came to see me after she died.  Each one brought about more feelings of being unacceptable and was followed by more isolation.  My parents worried about me as a child because I had a tendency to want to spend time with adults rather than play with the kids my own age.  I still have that tendency to this day, and I think it’s because I have always been fascinated with older peoples’ stories- you know, the things that make them who they are. Kids didn’t talk like that.

As a result of this kind of conditioning, over time, I’ve found that I prefer being alone much of the time, and also to be very selective with who I let into my life.  This isn’t necessarily a bad thing.

These feelings of rejection, judgement, shame and being cast aside, no matter how much you try to push these down, demand to be seen.  It is only when you sit with them, and talk with them, that you understand who you are and how you came to be.  From there, you have choices you didn’t have before, because you become aware.

If you know me at all, you know I do not like games, and I don’t play them.  I won’t.  I make decisions on the company I keep based on a few very important criteria.  First, I trust my gut and my inner knowing.  I’ve learned the hard way that it is my only truth.  Second, I look into a person’s energy for authenticity.  There are other factors, as well.

I share this with you to let you know that being more aware, psychic, spiritual, etc, does not make your path any easier.  I also share because I know how lonely it is to be authentic in a world that does not always appreciate that quality.  It keeps us from being who we are, and knowing who we are.  It also keeps us from really admitting what we want, love and need in this world.  We’re so busy working hard to get the house and the car that we don’t realize these things don’t matter to us. Sometimes losing these things is a huge blessing.  When you are without, is when you truly know what matters.

Embrace yourself today.  And if no one else tells you- you matter.

Today’s card, from the Sacred Rebels Oracle by Alana Fairchild.

Heart on a sleeve

•September 14, 2018 • Leave a Comment

Authenticity is something I prize.  It’s not always easy, and many times we build up our armor out of fear that in protecting ourselves we are doing ourselves a disservice.  I’m not saying we should all sky-dive without a parachute, but there should be a healthy sense of allowing  when it comes to our energy.  Why do we make people fight so hard to see who we are?  We do we make it difficult for people to share their affection with us?

There is a sense of what we deserve that plays heavily into this, but you know what? We are the only ones that assign that judgement.  Attribute it to whatever you wish- Eve eating from the tree of knowledge, if you like.  But the sun doesn’t judge itself as too hot, too bright, or harmful.  It simply is the sun.  Most living creatures are authentic in this way.  Why aren’t we that way?  Why do we judge our feelings as appropriate or inappropriate?  Why do we think we belong in one place and not another?  I’m not an expert, but I sincerely doubt there is a hippopotamus sitting around feeling bad that it’s not as pretty as a giraffe, or bird ashamed to sing its own song.

We do these things to ourselves, and then we don’t know how to be who we are anymore.  It’s not a question of hiding, over time, it becomes a question of not even knowing who we are in the first place.

It takes a lot of courage to face ourselves and accept who we are, if we’re even brave enough to look beneath the surface.  If we become more child-like in our approach, and suspend our judgement in order to explore and observe, we can see more clearly.  Are you brave enough to look? If you are, it will change your experience of the world.


The Secret Struggle

•September 10, 2018 • Leave a Comment

We are all fighting a secret battle that no one can see.  I’m no exception to this.  Each of us, at some point, becomes so good at hiding our struggle, that it appears that no one notices.  And then, you stumble across that one person, who without effort, creates a tiny crack in our fortress, and things come pouring out.

Then what?

We immediately panic.  We pull back.  We hide.  We try to quietly let the crack heal in the private hell we create for ourselves that no one is supposed to see or know exists.

The world tells us that any sign of weakness makes us vulnerable to attack.  I’m not sure which is worse- the fact that we see our authentic selves as weak or that we have to walk around feeling like we are prey.

So here’s what I really want to say, and this was just laying out some groundwork for where this is coming from.

All living things, if they are healthy, instinctively crave love, safety and comfort.  Somehow, we’ve created a world where these needs are looked at as weaknesses, and that is devastating. To deny this is to create a world that thrives on fear and addiction. If we can’t get love, we try to fulfill that need other ways- sex with strangers, drugs, alcohol, over-spending, extreme sports, etc.  Love makes us feel connected and alive, and if we do not have that, we will do anything to find a way to feel those things, even if it’s only temporary and detrimental in the long run.  They always fall short.

The devastating part is that we are all in need of the same thing, and all afraid to admit it- and for some of us, it was a spiritual teaching that brought us to this place.  That’s right, my friends, you thought you were doing yourself a favor by not needing anyone and being ‘strong’ on your own, but all you achieved was isolation, and denial of what truly makes you thrive as a human being.  Looking at it from that viewpoint, the thing you thought made you powerful actually made you quite weak, and easier prey for those who enjoy destroying someone’s spirit.

You thought that by keeping yourself in control of your emotions, you were being strong. Instead, it created a dissociative state that you are now very comfortable with, hence having the thing you truly want and need- love, safety and comfort- become a threat.

Can you see where I’m going with this?

We’ve been conditioned that our ego is evil. I don’t understand that. Ego is your identity in this life, in other words, your gender/ancestry/name, anything that is associated with your physical form. It is not the enemy.  It’s simply your current incarnation.  This physical form will have needs that need to be tended to.  Ego gives us an individual personality and identity, so that Spirit, which is our true identity, can experience itself in its many forms.  Ego IS the purpose of being human.  It’s the experience we came here for.  So why are we trashing it?  Why are we telling ourselves that it’s something that needs to be shed and transcended?

Ego is the incarnation, but it is not disconnected from Spirit.  Spirit also has needs, and they are linked. Spirit craves oneness, connection, and harmony.  These pair perfectly with the needs of the ego, they are not in opposition. Living from this space creates a different experience of the world.

The person who hides their emotions, authenticity and need for love is living in a state of imprisonment.  This WILL lead to the cycle of addiction and abuse. This will yield a fear of intimacy and closeness to other human beings.  It will trick you into thinking you are weak for any need you have and that will make you feel unworthy of those needs.

Hear me.  I know it’s hard to think that anyone would even want to be a part of your struggle, and your lips are sealed when someone asks you about how you’re doing. But living this way is creating a private Hell for each of us.  Jesus said to love one another as we love ourselves.  If this is the way we love ourselves, how can we ever expect to love and be loved as we truly need to be loved?  It’s impossible.

Being authentic means washing away the things we are taught as right and wrong, and reconnecting to the inner-knowing of what those really are.  Destroying other human beings in a quest to best everyone has become the only way to be seen as ‘successful.’  Inside, you know this is wrong, but you are taught that it is weak to be kind, loving and nurturing.

Fuck all that.  I need to be loved, nurtured and to feel like I’m of value.  I’m done pretending I’m ‘fine.’  I’m not fine, and neither are many of you reading this.  I don’t need a professional to counsel me, I need friends who care.  I don’t need a happy pill, I need a sense of belonging.  I don’t need to make more money, I need to feel valued.  We are part of nature, and nature is perfect.  It’s the the creation of these rules that have corrupted us, and it’s time we all admit that we’ve created a false world that will never allow us to thrive as we were made to.

Take All of Me

•July 23, 2018 • 1 Comment

There has been a big movement in the self-help industry over the last 15 -20 years or so that pushes the principles of ‘new thought,’ which is exactly why most would look at this image and think it’s all about seeing yourself in a positive light.  I have personally ventured down the Science of Mind road, and I can tell you that although on the surface it appears to be empowering, it’s actually not.  It sets people up for failure.  In one breath you are told the universe is infinite, and in the next, they want you to subscribe to ONE law- the law of attraction.  In a universe of limitless possibilities, why are they teaching that there is only one answer?

Problems are seen as opportunities to some and traumatic to others.  Some will smile through pain, others will let it swallow them.  Why must there be only one right way to be?  What I see more than anything is a need for a better personal philosophy, rather than a single answer.  Life is complex, and as humans we like our labels so we can feel like we are in control as we navigate through the seemingly good and seemingly bad, but it’s really all a matter of perspective, right?  Sure, but most people are picking a side.  Most people are this OR that, and judge one thing as valuable, while the other is to be discarded.

Nothing is without purpose.  One emotion is not good or bad, or better than the other.  A lower vibration is not less valuable than a higher one. If it was not needed, it would not exist.

If we ever expect to be happy, we have to stop dividing everything and begin integrating instead.  Once you divide something into two groups, you’ve missed the mark.  We truly are in an infinite universe, from one source of energy that connects all living things.  Oneness means everything, not just the things you choose as ‘good.’

Lion eats a lamb.  Good for the lion.  Bad for the lamb.  We can only see things from our own limited perspective.

Acceptance, Empathy and Communion are the keys to happiness.  These may be considered ‘weak’ traits to some people.  Why?  Because (at least here in America), we’ve built a society that thrives on competition, and that drives us to division- be it among cultures, social status, etc.   We are lead to believe that this is beneficial to all of us, but the truth is, it’s not.  It keeps us in a state of struggle, because there’s always something, or someone better, and we continue to feed the fear that we are not good enough.

Look at the image again.  Do you see weakness in the kitten or do you see something precious, that needs to be protected?  Do you see strength in the tiger, or do you see something to be feared?  It’s important to think about the messages we are receiving every single day from media, and even from well-meaning individuals who are trying to help us become self-actualized.  If you dig deep enough, you will find there is always an agenda beneath the message, and it almost always benefits someone other than you.

You may be kind and tender but also fierce in your loving.  You can be protective and forceful, but also considerate in your endeavors.  There is no need to pick a side. Everything we feel and everything we are  has a purpose.  When you feel your eyes filling with tears, cry.  When you feel your soul needing a breath, pray.  When you are filled with passion, let yourself feel.  The worst thing we can do is convince ourselves to kill or destroy a part of ourselves. A house divided cannot stand.   your shadow and allow it to become an integrated part of you.  This is the way to healing and happiness.

Yes You Can

•February 6, 2018 • Leave a Comment

So you want to be a spiritual person, but you feel like you’re just missing something, or can’t quite get it right.  Your mind wanders when you meditate, and no matter how hard you try to bless everyone you meet, you still want to strangle your co-worker who consistently shoots down all of your ideas in front of the boss.

Who’s grading you?

For each of us on our spiritual journey, we first begin our exploration by looking at what’s out there- in other words, ‘which box do I fit in?’  Is it spiritual to disagree with people who seem to be so sure of their beliefs?  Should I keep quiet and politely listen when others direct me on my own path, without solicitation?

**NOTE- before I go any further. There are a number of good people out there who truly care for other people and are doing the best they have with what they were given, both monetarily and from their hearts- Spiritual Teachers included.  This blog does not apply to those people.


So many people in the ‘new age community’ talk about being in the light, and the threefold rule, etc., but in my experience this tends to be a sign of spiritual immaturity, rather than the message that I assume is intended which is- “I’m more evolved than you.”  I’ve found myself wandering in and out of many groups that appeared to be offering me solutions to my existential struggle, or to remedy the dilemma of figuring out my purpose.  In nearly all of them, I found the same thing at the center- a self-serving guru whose only joy in life is being ‘above’ other people.

Be very careful who you open up to in a spiritual setting.  People tend to approach someone for a reading, for example, when they are at a vulnerable point in their lives, or having an emotional struggle.  This is not the time to evaluate a spiritual advisor.  This is no time for someone to make you feel small, nor is it the time for someone to tell you that you are at fault for your terrible circumstances.  Be open when you are happy and free, make the connection then with someone you feel is a kindred spirit.  Then, when you are in trouble, you have someone to call!

For a time, I became a student of Religious Science, as this was something I found interesting and wanted to better understand.  I spent many hours at Sunday Service, and even took the Foundations class that is the beginning step to becoming a practitioner.  There was a lot of ‘God is Good,’ and fluffy pink lights around every person (metaphorically speaking).  It was common to hear someone begin to speak of a problem or issue, only to have their conversation partner interrupt with ‘No! You just tell yourself it’s all working out for the highest good!”  That kind of advice is little help or comfort to someone who is in distress, and processing very valid emotions.  I watched as a very dear friend with severe medical issues, and was desperately trying to stay positive about her plight after suffering through years of treatments, doctors, surgeries, etc., was facing the ‘accusation’ that she had something wrong in her thinking that caused all of this and it was something that needed to be fixed before she would get well.  Is that what passes for compassion?  Oh, but they just want to help!  Yeah, that’s not helping.  Invalidating her suffering- which was and is real- is not loving.  No principle in the world is worth making someone feel that they are at fault when they are already knocked down a black hole.

Darkness is not the opposition of Light.  It is its compliment.  It is part of the whole.  How can you exist as a whole, when you deem half of yourself to be incorrect?

Let me say this clearly:

You, your emotions, your path, your life… is not a mistake.  God/Divinity/Spirit did not need your help to create Universe and does not need your consultation on what you deem to be incorrect.

Can you be spiritual but not fit into any of the current belief systems?

Yes You Can.

Regardless of the many classes, meet ups, groups, etc., I’ve been a part of, I belong to all of them and none of them.  I do not identify with any one classification I’ve encountered.  The only word that comes close to what I am, is Witch, and to many, Witch is a dangerous word.

If you are struggling to find your path, and you’ve found me, know that it is not an accident. There are others like me, but we are hard to find, and tend to find you when you need us.  Drop me a line, or visit me at the Curious Cauldron.  I’m here to serve.

For you GoT fans- Valar Dohaeris

What is Divine Timing?

•August 20, 2017 • Leave a Comment

It began with a familiar smell. It took me a few seconds to place it, but my mind searched quickly through my memories and I found it. The memory replayed of a place and time in my life, over 20 years ago. I found myself walking through that memory, and instead of just seeing it as I saw it at the time it was occurring, I saw it from the perspective of present day, with Spirit present. You might envision this to be a bit like present day Scrooge, going back in time with the ghost of Christmas past. In truth, Spirit walks beside us, illuminating the way, so it’s not all that far-fetched of a concept, is it?

The smell was from a particular college dorm room, and a time in my life when I was even more impatient than I am now. At every age I can remember, I’ve felt like a caged tiger, never quite able to move past a certain radius and constantly feeling that anxious feeling of wanting to be free.

It was a specific moment in time, when an impulse lead to a decision, and that decision caused me to take one course over the infinite others, as all decisions do. With Spirit by my side, I watched my memory play out, and I realized that the mistake I made wasn’t in exercising my free will, but that my mind, with its limited experience and the anxiety of feeling pent up is what drove me to make decisions then. Spirit whispered, ‘Do you see that if you were patient, and waited for the divine timing, you could have avoided this?’

Spirit’s message was like turning on a light in a dark room.

“Your nature is such that you are compelled to act, but do you see that if you wait for the signs from your Higher Self to show you the way and THEN act, things would be different?”

In that moment, the reality of Diving Timing became crystal clear.

The very quiet voice that speaks to us, which feels like it’s coming from behind at times rather than inside, isn’t meant to undermine our ability or free wil to make our own decisions. It allows us to include the part of us with greater perspective that is in tune with the Divine to guide us in making more comprehensive choices.

In a world that is most interested in power and the construct of a hierarchy, there is no room for true inner development, spiritual connection and non-judgemental reflection. Some of us are fortunate enough to find that place of inner knowing, and NOT have it stamped out by the doubt of others, or being shamed for having a different experience of the world. Others keep quiet until someone who has found that place walks in and there is immediate connection and openness that allows the quiet to become a safe conversation. If you have found me, know that it is not an accident, but an opportunity. Know, also, that it is always well within your right to choose to pass this opportunity by, and move to something else. There are no wrong roads to take, only different paths.

Wherever you are on your path, I welcome the chance to share even a small part of it with you. There’s nothing that brings me more peace, than seeing the recognition in someone’s face when they realize they are connected to everyone and everything, and can perceive life from a higher perspective, I am seeing what I hold most dear- Truth.  I can be reached at if you’d like to schedule time with me.

As always- I wish you well on your journey

Battle of the Selves: Ego vs Soul- Mind vs Body

•July 13, 2017 • Leave a Comment

Just because we are aware of, and can identify different aspects of ourselves does not mean they are separate pieces that live a life of their own.  Everything is connected, and we can see differences in our aspects but that doesn’t make them different ‘selves,’ exactly.

For example, take a large quartz crystal and hold it in your hand.  You may notice different inclusions.  Just because one of them may be a black spec, doesn’t mean that the entire crystal is a dark spec!  It’s a part of it, and it isn’t separate! On the same token, a drop of ocean water, is NOT the entire ocean.

The mind isn’t separate from the body, but the body isn’t the mind and the mind isn’t the body.  It’s like saying Montana is the United States and vice versa.  The important thing is the expansion of our awareness to all of the aspects of ourselves without DIVIDING OURSELVES.

Emotions aren’t separate, inconvenient parts of ourselves.  They affect the Mind and the Body because they are part of them both.  Ego self is the human identity.  So my Ego is Nicole, but my entire Being is not just this one aspect.  Nor is my Soul separate from my body.  It animates my body and my body is a manifestation of the energy that is my Soul.

When we have a broken heart, it affects us physically, emotionally, mentally, and on a soul level.  No trauma or joy affects only one part of ourselves.  This is why it’s paramount to pay attention to each part of ourselves and look for the communication that goes largely unnoticed regarding the state of our entire Being.  Physical pain is never just about an isolated mechanical issue with the body any more than a tragic loss is only about our emotions.

When your body speaks, listen, and find the connections to the other aspects of yourself.  When your mind speaks, listen, and do the same.  Emotions are the bridge, so they are most important of all communication that you can receive from your Self.  Spirit is also a part of each of these aspects, and can never really be separated.

In all things, there is an opposing view, but never is there a division other than your own perception.  For example, I am as grateful to have no one I’m obligated to at the moment as I am lonely to have no one that I’m obligated to at the moment.  It’s all about how you look at things.  All of it affects all of me, and as a human I have the privilege to see and be aware of the different aspects of myself.  But never am I alone, separated, or divided within myself.  I am always whole, and no matter how long it takes, I will eventually see all of the pieces and then, like all Souls, I will return Home.

The Hidden Path

•June 29, 2017 • 1 Comment

It’s a funny thing when someone finds out I have ‘gifts.’ There are a lot of assumptions made about me, such as, I must ‘know’ things about them, or I’m somehow working with an unfair advantage in life. Once again, returning to my roots with this blog- it’s all about the ‘confession,’ right? So here it is.

We’re all born with natural strengths and weaknesses. I can’t explain why I am able to intuit things better than someone else is able to excel at playing basketball. When you have something that you naturally do well, it’s because you are meant to use it to your advantage. It wouldn’t serve anyone for an incredible athlete to spend his or her days as a tax attorney, would it? So why would it be any different with this ability? I have always been able to sense the unseen, and for a long time I denied it and forced myself to do things that made me miserable. Who did that serve? Was it better for me to sit at a desk, and collect a check rather than use my gift? The reasons why are always the same for all of us. We do it because we don’t want to be seen as ‘strange’ or because our families have certain expectations, or because we are scared that we can’t make our dreams our day job.

From the Gaia Oracle deck by Toni Carmine Salerno

At some point I had to come to the realization that my not using my gifts was the equivalent of a violin-player who represses their creativity in favor of being an accountant. It’s time that we, as a society, started to put some value on things that we currently don’t seem to give a flying shit about. The guitarist on the street corner who is really incredible at his craft is seen as less valuable to society than a medical doctor, for example. We’ve seen this sort of thing over and over in cheesy movies about the end of the world and who to send to the ‘new’ planet to start a fresh, new civilization. It’s time to stop letting others assign you a value, and to, instead, shine, sparkle and explode like the amazing talent you are.

Having said that, there are major challenges in living a life that is intertwined with the Divine. Your entire scope of reality is through a filter most people can’t fathom. There are struggles such as ‘how do I charge to heal someone when this is a gift? I mean, Jesus didn’t charge, did he?’ You may also notice the number of people in the ‘spiritual’ arts that are overweight, have health issues, or are always financially strapped. Truly spiritual people have a hard time living in this reality, which is why these issues are common with us. The inner knowing is so much more real than the physical world. The tendency is to split. We say, ‘this is my ego/physical world and over here is my spiritual/diving purpose world.’ In a reality where the truth is that we really are all connected and so is everything that is around us, this is just fucking absurd. Our capacity for understanding the truth is not great as humans, and it creates a need to compartmentalize things- both for our own management of the outer world and for the comfort of those around us who will not understand otherwise.

Hear me on this one- Your body isn’t your enemy or your vehicle.
Your Soul is bigger than your body.

Spiritual wisdom without the practical application of it is literally useless. We fight our intuition with our logic, for example, because we believe it to be more real, or perhaps dare I say, ‘smarter.’ Your decisions are yours to make, either way, but I’m here to break the bubble of those of you who think it’s all about one or the other. Being human is a divine experience because everything that is alive originates with the Source of everything and IS Divine. You may assign a value to a blade of grass versus a human being, but neither is greater or less than the other, because both are Spirit made Matter. Reason through it as you like, but the core of it is unchanging. Life is all about perspective, and if you need to check with someone else to prove you are right about something, you’re using your only your head. The deeper wisdom that never leaves you is always there, waiting to be accessed, because it’s always connected. The best advice you can ever get is to use all of what you have to move toward what you desire to become. If ‘God’ doesn’t make mistakes, then nothing you do is essentially wrong, unless you judge it as such. There is no outside force called the Devil. Energy has the ability to become anything. Some of it becomes what we call ‘evil,’ but at the core, it’s still energy. It’s still Source.
Matter isn’t separate from Spirit. Spirit isn’t separate from Matter. Embrace both, and you will know an entirely new life. If the Universe sought to give you the gift of song, then sing, and as you do, know that energy is dancing through you as your song, and you are releasing your energy back to the Universe to become something else. If you are gifted in Science, then create, and know that as you are creating, the energy that you put into your research is being released back to the Universe and has the potential to become the foundation for another’s creation. Everything becomes something else, because everything is energy, and energy does not die.

This is the Hiddent Path. Walk in the LIght of Spirit with One Foot in each World.


My Philosophy for 2017

•February 8, 2017 • Leave a Comment

Nearly all of the posts here are straight from Spirit, direct experiences I’ve had with Spirit or stories that I share because they inspire others. Today’s post comes from the VERY human part of me, that- just like you- trying to figure out my life, day by day, while listening to Spirit’s voice in the midst of the chaos around me. It is also meant to inspire others, but from a more grounded, earthly perspective, so please take it from where it’s coming from. The purpose of this blog has always been to share what it’s like to live from an intuitive viewpoint.  This is another installment in that spirit.

It’s 2017, and I’m nearing the 42 year mark of my life. In that time, I’ve been taught many things that haven’t been true, and definitely have not served me. I’ve learned that my soul has the heart of a child, and that is something that can invite in hurt because it seeks to help, shelter and comfort the hearts of others. I’ve learned that this is my makeup at the molecular level and it cannot be changed. My will has tried to steer it in many other directions, and each time, the compass still points to my true North, my true calling, my true soul’s purpose. If we are all here for a reason, then this is mine.

I’ve learned that hiding and being meek begets nothing useful. In spite of what some of you in my day to day life may think, I keep a lot to myself. I’m not perfect, and I make mistakes, but there’s a difference between calling someone out because they are being dishonest versus making someone feel bad because you don’t like their choices. This is the beginning of what I call the ‘no bullshit,’ phase of my life. Much like Judge Judy, I have a sixth sense for false statements, and I’m done accepting bullshit. If it smells like bullshit, and looks like bullshit.. it’s probably bullshit, right? I call it like I see it, and that means I may be seen as this awfully dirty-sounding word people use- ‘confrontational.’ Am I confrontational? Hell yes, I am! If something is wrong, I deal with it. I am NOT, however, antagonistic. Let’s not confuse the two. I like to solve problems, not cause them. I adore clarity, and knowing where I stand. In return, you will absolutely know where you stand.

I continue to honor and listen to the voice of my soul. At times it’s been my only friend. It’s never abandoned me, and when the world around me is swirling like a blender, I trust it. It’s never lead me astray.

So many of us have lived our lives for others. We behave how others think we should because it makes THEM feel more comfortable. This is true for most people who are sensitive, and/or empaths. It’s our nature to want to make others happy, and we truly don’t see our own needs going by the wayside. Our focus is on service to others, and this is something that many people don’t understand. They think there is an ulterior motive or agenda of some kind. While I cannot speak for all people, I think I can speak for the empaths out there who have been seen as much less than they are because of the lack of authenticity in ‘other’ people. When you hurt, we hurt. That’s what being an empath is all about. Being selfish, or creating stories just to get what we want, is appalling to us. It’s not in our makeup to do such things. Unfortunately, others do this, and it makes it very hard to be seen as real and authentic in our absolute need to care for others. I’m sorry for this, but it’s not going to change who I am, and I will continue to be the force I was created to be in this world, and I will continue to serve others. Others matter, and I know I matter too, which is why I also keep a modest set of boundaries to protect my very soft heart.

So, to sum up my philosophy:

– When I see bullshit, I call bullshit
– I care deeply for others and will continue to do so- but not at my own peril
– When I feel in my Spirit that it’s time to leave a place, I leave
– If I’m drawn to someone, I go with that, no matter what the cultural standard or social structure. Spirit cares not for such petty things when it comes to getting you a message.
– I will continue to give love, without expecting it to be returned in the way and from the ones I give it to, but knowing that in the end, it serves me to be able to do so because it fulfills my purpose.

Thanks for reading, and I hope I’ve inspired you to let your light shine! Do not let the lack of light shining from others cause you to dim yours! Shine even brighter and show them it’s not so scary.


We are here to love and support one another

Creation from Pain: Being Wholly Human

•January 10, 2017 • Leave a Comment

A lot of people see absolutely no reason for pain.  It hurts, and it’s uncomfortable.  What could be positive about that?  Seeing a loved one pass on, the ending of a marriage, or the loss of a friendship all conjure feelings on the ‘negative’ spectrum of emotion, and it would seem some of us carry those feelings with us throughout our lives. No one likes to feel shitty!  I get that!  But there’s more….

Nothing is created without something first being destroyed, and we are creators. 

Think of the pain of birthing a child into the world, or the way a seed must crack and be utterly destroyed for a plant to sprout from it.  In our pain lies hidden treasure if we allow ourselves to move through it.  

-From the Gaia Oracle Deck

Think of a song that touches your soul.  9 times out of 10, it’s a song that pulls on the strings of sadness rather than joy.  Why?  Why is it that pain seems to stay with us and happiness feels fleeting?  It’s not hard, actually.

We allow ourselves to feel happiness, and let it flow through us, but feelings like grief, loss, and pain stay with us because we refuse to give them the freedom to flow.  

There is freedom in tears.  There is so much relief when you give into pain and experience it as a sensation and not as something you are in complete resistance to.  All of our feelings are beautiful and human.  They are not rewards or punishments.  They are natural and they all must be allowed to flow in order for us to be wholly human. 

When your heart feels an ache, don’t fight it.  Welcome it.  Emotions become trapped in the body and eventually become physical pains and ailments.  Honor your journey here by not holding on to anything.  All is in process, constantly flowing and in motion.  In the words of Robert Frost, “Nothing gold can stay.”  

Letting the pain flow through you releases it, and opens you up to the language of the Universe.  See the hidden gift in what you may now see as an inconvenience, uncomfortable situation, or useless torture.  It holds a truth that is waiting for you to see it. 

Adventures in Spiritual Dating: Can you hear me now?

•January 8, 2017 • Leave a Comment

This one speaks directly to others who are spiritually-connected and living an intuitive life.

The absolute biggest issue I’ve encountered in any sort of dating is that of a lack of connection.  When a person, such as myself, has a strong connection to Spirit, everything else pales in comparison.  The intensity of the closeness I experience with loved ones in Spirit, animals, Angels, etc, can be compared to what I imagine it feels like in the womb.  Looking into the eyes of another person, versus looking into the eyes of a puppy, for example, is something the average person can understand when it comes to this comparison.  There is no hidden agenda, or manipulation.  It is the purest form of connection and it just feels like absolute communion, a joining of spirits.

Being empathic means that I often connect to someone and experience their current state and vibration, which generally acts as a shield to who they are on a deeper level.  It’s confusing because my intellect wants to chime in and do some logical interpretation of what’s being said,  but my intuitive mind is so open it’s difficult to do more than live in the moment.  In truth, I operate by living in the moment, staying present, and that often means that I don’t give much thought to ‘what’s next’ or ‘why certain things are discussed and others are not.’  I’m simply ‘being,’ and flowing with what is happening.  Unless I’m paired with someone who is also present in the moment, without an agenda or having his head be in another place, you can imagine the feeling of disconnect that I experience.

Feelings of being isolated are quite common among spiritually-connected people.  When you have had the experience of being so close to something, it becomes evident that in human form, we simply can’t touch the soul of someone who hasn’t reached that point of being spiritually-aware or connected.  It’s like trying to stack two different sized Legos and always having those notches that don’t meet up stick out in that annoying way.

This will be my last in the ‘Adventures in Spiritual Dating’ series.  I continue to reach out to those I am drawn to, and explore what adventures lie ahead.  A word of sage wisdom– Once in my life I had a very special connection with a boyfriend who could literally read my thoughts, and I his.  It’s never happened since, and that was about 20 years ago.  I was so young, I had no idea how special and rare that connection was, and I’ve never been able to fully break it.  We remain friends to this day.  So– cherish those around you who do not need words to be understood and who can communicate with a touch and a look in their eyes.  They are your vibrational match, and hard to find. Being on the same wavelength is far more difficult when you’re operating from the space of being spiritually aware.




Adventures in Spiritual Dating- The excitment and terrifying feeling of being seen.

•January 2, 2017 • Leave a Comment


It’s easy to stir up passion and exciting to explore chemistry.  Those are the two main reasons so many of us are out there dating people we know could not fit into our every day lives and realities.  Especially as an empath, it’s quite addictive to constantly feel those brand new combinations that happen when we allow our energy fields to mingle with another’s.  It’s chemistry on steroids for sensitive people.  Two energy fields, coming together can yield very interesting experiences, and ultimately we are experiencing ourselves in other people.  Some may bring out your shadow side, and you may find yourself immersed in feelings that are in complete resistance to him or her.  Other times, there’s what I call a ‘wounded healer,’ connection where the other person’s emotional pain is like a tonic that you can’t stop drinking, in the hopes you will take it all into yourself and remove the person’s pain.  In the end, we find that we cannot heal our own wounds.

Then there are the moments when we are caught off-guard and our vulnerability shows, plain as day, almost without our permission.  We reveal ourselves.  This is the most frightening for some of us, and for others, that raw feeling is so familiar we practically live there.  Letting ourselves be seen becomes the thing we avoid, even though it is the very thing that would bring us closer to another human being, and to touch souls, which is what we are all craving to do.

In order to experience that closeness we all want and deserve, we have to peel back the layers, and uncover ourselves.

I’ve found myself pulling back and hiding myself without a conscious thought as to why.  I’ve put on weight over the last few months, very rapidly.  There have been far too many moments of being comfortably numbed by the effects of alcohol. I’ve been so lost in a passionate moment and suddenly found myself tensing up, when it felt as if I may surrender to the moment and lose control of my heart.  Keeping myself guarded had become a way of life, and it is a difficult habit to give up, especially when it’s on an unconscious level.  At the end of the day, I’ve found myself feeling hollow without understanding that I wasn’t respecting my soul’s voice when it was asking me to let myself jump, and fall without fear.  My survival mechanisms were in full throttle.

Why do we spend so much time, puffing out our bellies and showing people how strong and mighty we are, when all we want is to find someone who makes us feel safe enough to fall apart in their arms?

We think we want unconditional love,  but what we are really searching for is unconditional acceptance.  Being vulnerable in the presence of another soul is the most powerful connection we can experience as humans.  It breaks down all barriers and allows for the closeness we seek to experience in our souls. And yet, it’s the very thing we do this dance, hoping to avoid.

Eventually, the energy it takes to keep our guard up is exhausted, and we reveal our humanness.  I openly admit, that in a partner, this is what I’m hoping to see.  I want to breath in that energy of emotional and spiritual nakedness and let it wash over me, so I can respond with the same.  We are both human and divine.  Our strength lies within our vulnerability, which is what reveals our souls.  Holding ourselves back punishes everyone, including ourselves, and robs us of the experience of oneness in human form.


Adventures in Spiritual Dating- First Dates

•December 13, 2016 • Leave a Comment

When I meet someone, the first impressions I receive often come from my intuitive senses before my intellect kicks in.  It’s always been the first thing that I notice when meeting new people.  I feel them.  Dating is no exception.  And yes, I will pick up on things like, ‘this guy thinks he’s a big deal,’ or ‘he’s uncomfortable in his own skin.’   I have a pretty good bullshit detector, but at the same time, I want to see the good in someone so it’s not always easy.

Within minutes, I feel a shift in the vibration and I very naturally match the vibration of the person I’m with.  I maintain a slight openness from an empathic standpoint, because, for me, this is one of the ways I experience a person.  I’ll find my mind gravitate toward specific thought patterns or topics of conversation without effort, and almost always receive a look or a comment like, ‘it’s funny you should mention that.’

Recently, I went on a date to a Sports Bar, and during the conversation, I suddenly saw a dog in my mind’s eye.  Even with the television sets, and the noise of other patrons, it was there.  I suddenly interrupted and asked, “do you have a dog?”  He said, “Yes, how did you know that?”  His expression was pretty suspicious.  I sort of casually mentioned that I’m intuitive and that I thought I had mentioned that in my profile.  He didn’t really seem to believe me, but he asked me if i knew what breed.  I could see that it was back and tan, like a rottweiler, so I asked about the color first and he said, ‘Yes.’  As he searched his phone for a photo.  I guessed at the breed, and even though it wasn’t a rottie, he had all the markings, including the giant bear-like paws.   Now, you may know that I never ‘work’ when I’m having a drink, and this is no exception.  Once the waitress brought over my drink, my ‘closed for business’ sign metaphorically went up and I stopped picking up information.

When I’m asked about myself, it’s relatively difficult to give a straight answer to certain questions, because I don’t really think in a linear way about myself.  I will say things like, “I like to help people,” or “I like to spend time in nature,” and for most of my spiritual friends, this is acceptable.  More intellectual minds tend to be meticulous, and detail-oriented, so many times I tend to feel like I’m being dissected, and this makes me want to stop sharing.  If I try to play the same game, it makes me even more agitated.  At this point, I know if there is a connection that is on a deeper level.  First dates are like job interviews.  If I can’t get to a certain level of comfort, I know it’s going to be an uphill battle and I let the ship go down, as it will.

I relate to other people based on sharing, and finding common ground, not putting puzzle pieces together.  I want to hear your stories, and how you felt the first time you rode a bicycle.  I want you to understand the look in my eyes when I talk about a pet that I love and express how much I miss her.    I don’t want a carbon copy of myself- so don’t mistake what I’m saying there.  I want someone who can relate to how I experience the world, even if he doesn’t quite experience it the same way.

Is there a man out there who wants to truly know ‘me’ as a whole person, without pulling me apart, analyzing, comparing and evaluating me on some kind of a scale?

Adventures in Spiritual Dating Part 1- The Myth of having to love yourself first

•December 11, 2016 • Leave a Comment

Warning-  Beyond this point, I will not apologize for what may or may not offend you. I will be using the language I feel best expresses my experience, and I’ll share a secret with you… I curse like a sailor, and I am spiritual as fuck.   You may begin.

So here I am, a spiritual person in the world of the single human, looking for love.  What exactly is that like? Well, this is where the fun begins.

If you’re like me, you’ve spent hours on your own ‘self,’ and have come to a place where you’re ready to share your ‘self’ with others.  Let me begin by saying that you are an infinite soul and will never be ‘finished’ with your work, so the point at which you decide to invite someone to share your life is your choice.  None of us truly has our shit together.  In the spiritual community, it’s almost a proverb to say things like, ‘you have to love yourself first.’   I kinda gotta call bullshit on that.  The rules of freewill mean you can do whatever the hell you want, for one, and for another, who does anyone think they are to tell YOU that you don’t already love yourself?  I loved my dog, Toby when I was 8.  I didn’t have a spiritual community to tell me I wasn’t capable of loving him fully, and I stand by that now.  Humans love power, control and rules.  A ‘spiritual’ person who tries to limit your thinking is not being spiritual, he or she is being human.  There are infinite ways to experience infinite Love.  Pick one, and then another, and then another.  Don’t let anyone tell you what you’re lacking and therefore why you’re not worthy of love or loving someone yet.

If we are all sparks of God and as such we are all part of each other, loving ANYONE ELSE IS loving yourself.  We are all expressions of God, seeking to experience such as separate from the whole in this experience.  So when I look at you and say, ‘you are so beautiful,’ I am seeing a part of God, and thus a part of me.  Bam.


Adventures in Spiritual Dating

•November 28, 2016 • Leave a Comment

Like many of you, for most of my life I was in the spiritual closet. I kept my gifts to myself, and I only let a few people know about my experiences. I dated, and of course I was married for a time, but my spiritual self was still somewhat separate from my human identity and as such, wasn’t shared with my romantic partners. I always made it a less important part of my life out of fear that it would interfere or cause trouble somehow. I did a lot of hiding, and put a lot of thought into my wording of things as not to let out my big secret- that I am spiritual being!

Fast forward to today, and it’s a totally different picture. I’ve fully embraced myself as a spiritual being, and identify with what I call the little ‘i’ much less than the big ‘I.’ This is a huge step for anyone, and if you’ve done it yourself, I commend you. It isn’t an easy thing to do. As a fully integrated, whole being, and a single lady, I’m ready to go out and find the romantic partner of my dreams.

This time around, I’m out, baby! And it sure makes things interesting. A lot of puzzled looks, followed by the furrowing of the brow, and taking a step back, are among the reactions I’ve received when I try to explain what I’m all about. But guess what? This time there will be no hiding, no compromising and NO rewording of anything to smooth over the metaphysical undertones. This time, I want a partner that is right for me, not one that I am willing to put up with or who is willing to look past what he sees as simply a ‘hobby’ or my ‘quirks.’

I’m inviting you into my personal journey, and will share things that some may think are inappropriate, so consider yourself warned if you are easily offended. As more of my personality comes out through the magic of my story-telling, you may find some colorful language and frank viewpoints. Don’t forget- in all of my glory as a Divine Being, I am also fully Human. Let’s begin!

Shadows and Light.

•July 2, 2016 • Leave a Comment

Shadow and Light. Black and White.  Everything has its polar opposite.  But what if it all just came from the same place and the only difference is how we look at things?

Nurturing is looked at as a ‘good’ quality, while enabling is looked at as a ‘bad’ quality.  But in the both of these concepts lies the energy of same force.  What if the only difference between what this energy develops into or how it takes shape in the world, is the intention and motivation behind it?  The same words that are debasing to some are quite tantalizing or terms of endearment to others.  For some people, feeling pain means they are still alive.  For others, it stops them from living.  It’s all a matter of perspective.

In all of our experiences, there lies incredible insight into what it means to be a human being.  They all have value, and play a part in how we understand the world.  Seeing multiple sides of an equation is surprisingly simple when we observe rather than filter through the lens of judgement. Allowing ourselves to be honest about our experiences and let go of the judgement we hold of them, frees us of self-imposed stress and helps us walk through the doorway that we’ve been staring at with fear.  Every time we experience something, we become able to understand ourselves and each other a little better.  Integrating the parts of ourselves that we associate with ‘darkness’ or see as ‘bad,’ is the essence of bringing us into alignment.  When we are fighting parts of ourselves, or trying to tell ourselves we need to fixed, we are not being loving to ourselves.

from the Medieval Scapini Tarot

from the Medieval Scapini Tarot


This is something I’ve come full circle with, which is why I’ve chosen to share it today.  Even the most spiritual among us has moments of doubt that cause us to see what once was in perfect order as complete chaos.  In the darkest time of my life, I could not see or process things because I judged and separated things into compartments.  I thought this would keep my ‘parts’ neat and organized.  But much like a child who thinks the mashed potatoes should never touch the peas on his plate, separating the parts of myself served no purpose except to fool myself into believing my fears.  In truth, worlds will not collide and explode if our peas touch our mashed potatoes, and the earth will not end if we integrate all of our experiences and accept that we are not the sum of them.

You are more than the sum of your mistakes in one column,

versus the accomplishments in the other.

This is the trap I fell into for a number of years.  I questioned everything, and I made it all fit into one category or another in an effort to make sense of things.  In truth, as a result of the more painful times in my life, I felt I had betrayed myself and thought the best thing to do was to live in my ego, and therefore, I would be protected.  I became fearful.  I quantified everything.  And in the end, I realized I was hurting myself more than I was protecting myself.  I segregated my selves and tried to take each one out of its box when needed, while carefully putting the other selves away.   They were an array of identities  daughter, friend, stepmother, wife, ex-wife, employee, mystic, gypsy, spiritual, etc.

I’m happier now than I have been in a long time, because I am no longer in denial about any of the things I am, and more so because I understand the power I have to change.  Yesterday I may have been needy because my reality was being shaped by a viewpoint of lack.  Today, I feel gratitude for all that I have.  Patience and time showed me that my judgements were a choice.   Today, I choose differently.  I honor and accept the dark parts of me, inviting them to tell me a story of how they came to be and why they hide.  Should you choose to go through this process yourself, you will find there’s nothing you need to hide from.

Light of the love that I found

•June 27, 2016 • Leave a Comment

If you read my previous post, you already know that incredible shifts have been happening in my life over the last couple of months.  I can’t exactly explain how it happened.  It’s almost as if a light switch was flipped and for the first time in years I could see the world around me.

Of course, Spirit likes to test us to see if we really got the lesson, right?  So tonight, I set out for my favorite 3-mile walking route with my phone in-hand set to my playlist of choice and MapMyWalk fired up to record my efforts.  About a mile and a half into my walk, I felt a droplet.  I looked up and said, ‘oh no you don’t!’

But it did.

At first I thought it would only last a few minutes, as storms come and go quickly here in Florida. So I stopped under a tree and kept my music playing while I sort of bopped up and down to keep my heart rate up.  When it let up a little, I started back up at full speed.  It was raining lightly but the sun was still out, making the sky look as if it were glowing behind the few darker clouds.  Memories of playing outside in the rain until my mother made us come inside came flooding back (pun intended).  I thought about a secret wish I’ve harbored, which I’ve never spoke aloud- to walk, splash and just ‘be’ in the rain, enjoying every single minute of it, was suddenly coming true.   In that moment, I smiled up at Spirit.

When we allow ourselves to be authentic

and admit what we really want inside,

we experience not only freedom,

but a full response from the Universe.

I took my hair down and let it get soaking wet.  My clothes were sopping.  My face was dripping and yet all I could do was smile.  Of course, my phone was a concern so I stopped by a tree that had a little newsstand and stuck it inside while I waited for the heavier part of the rains to stop.  As I stood there, the little league game at the park behind me was being rained out and little disappointed faces were sitting in the dugout.  A man on a bicycle passed by, laughing to himself as another man on a motorcycle pulled up to the same corner, also smiling.  He shouted out,”Nice weather we’re having!”  When he reached me I stood there smiling and nodded as I squeezed the drops of water from my t-shirt.  There wasn’t a drop of sarcasm or an once of impatience to be had. I’ve never seen a more serene scene, as each of us made our way with ease through the raindrops.

In the past, I would have been frustrated by all of this, criticizing myself for going out when it might rain, or the rain itself for falling.  But in this moment, I had the realization that I’ve truly experienced a shift in my life.

Once it let up, I wrapped up my phone in a newspaper and made my way home, laughing and smiling along the way, knowing that this was a test from Spirit.  Since my most recent awakening, it’s been a natural inclination for me to thank people for the little things, as well as the big things.  I’m aware of how precious it is to have so much love and support from the people around me. I’m grateful for every chance I have to give of myself in any way, even if it’s just to give someone a simple compliment.

Spirit: “Have you really adjusted your attitude?”   Me: “Oh yes, yes I have! “

Life is not about waiting out the storm. It's about learning to dance in the rain.

Life is not about waiting out the storm. It’s about learning to dance in the rain.

Part of my blog has always been to reveal the secret “confessions” of what it’s like to have a connection to Spirit, and yet at the same time to reveal the honest truth-  that even the most ‘spiritual’ among us are also human.  We make mistakes.  We get frustrated.  We say or do things we regret every once in a while.  But we have the power to change our minds, and change our lives.  We all deserve a second chance.  I would rather love someone just a little too much, and hurt just a little deeper for having the prividege of loving someone. I’m not afraid of looking foolish for getting caught in the rain.  I’m not ashamed that it felt freeing, fun and brought me a sense of joy.  I fully embrace being both resilient and vulnerable in my humanness, and I fully trust that God, Spirit, the Universe, or whatever word you prefer to use, is taking care of me, and for that I am grateful.

And if you’re as cool as I know you are, as you were reading this, you were hearing “Fool in the Rain,” by Led Zeppelin, simply because you were clever enough to gleen that bit of insight from the title of this post.


May the Force be with you

•June 12, 2016 • Leave a Comment

It’s been some time since I’ve written about something personal, but it feels like the things I’ve been going through would help others who have also been in a dark place, so today I’m speaking from my own voice and experience.

We are all very complicated in our make up.  At times I have felt like I was caught up in a tornado that was swirling with everything I thought, felt, and feared.  None of it made sense.  All of it seemed disconnected.  At one time or another, we all feel conflicted and unable to make choices for fear of what they may bring.

My divorce was final in Oct 2011.  After relocating my life, beginning a new career, becoming a stepmom, and having to struggle to keep it all together for so long, I had to re-relocate back with family and figure out who I was.  I thought I was a colossal failure.  How could I have been so stupid to uproot my entire life, only to have it come crashing down in so many pieces?

I tried my hardest to make peace with the situation, and find a way to move through it, without doing any additional harm.  I remained calm and decided my best course of action was to create a timeline and a plan that would allow me to transition back home to live with family and regroup.  I mustered a sense of certainty that allowed me to have difficult conversations, and make difficult choices as if I were running business.  It all made good sense.

Once I was home, something changed.  You know that feeling of calm that you experience when a volatile situation arises and you are able to handle it with surprising ease-  only to crack into a million pieces once it’s all been resolved?  That’s what happened to me.  I experienced nights of sleeplessness, and when I could sleep, I would wake up in the middle of the night with a sense of dread and panic that I couldn’t control.  “What have I done?  What happened to me?”  I tried to maintain my composure, but underneath it all, I was fractured and I felt like I wasn’t valued.  I doubted all of the decisions I made that lead up to what felt like one big disaster.  I turned inward and in my spiritually-minded way, I spent a lot of time reflecting on things.  I got a routine started that would create a sense of normalcy.   I thought I was doing okay, but in my desire to move forward, I was bypassing my pain in favor of ‘positive thoughts,’ and distractions that kept me from seeing that I needed to heal from what had transpired.

It’s been almost 5 years since then, and I’m here to tell you that no matter how much you want to move through and past the things that broke you and caused you trauma, sometimes only time can heal your wounds.  If you are lucky, you will find that people will come into your life that will show you things about yourself that really need your attention.  But if you are not ready to see them, once again, only time will bring you that wisdom.  And what is the wisdom that came?  I quote Yoda-

You must unlearn what you have learned.

Truth:  Before I went through all of this, I was in the most amazing place in my personal development.  I had a career in massage therapy that gave me a true sense of purpose  My work was both intensely personal as well as rewarding.  I was healing people from physical pain, but in addition, my loving attitude created a space for people to open up to me with their worries, emotional baggage, and insecurities.  I listened with a non-judgmental heart.  I saw each of my clients as a soul in a body, trying to do their best to find their way in the world, and I was happy to be a stop on their journey.  I offered a sense of unconditional acceptance and found that my job was more than a job, but a calling to be of service.

This all came to a hault with the divorce.  In my mind, I thought I could never be less than what I had grown into, and yet it is only within the last 5 months that I can truly see what became of me.  My lack of confidence in making decisions threw me into a downward spiral of low self-esteem.  I found my spiritual gifts were becoming less accessible, and that made me further lose my sense of purpose and certainty.  Everything around me seemed to reinforce this new viewpoint that I had little value, and that no one would see me as lovable.  After all, if I was so lovable and wonderful, how could someone cast me aside so easily?  I felt like I had been disposed of.  What’s worse than being rejected by another?  Harboring a deep personal rejection of yourself.

Timing is everything.

The last few months have been the most painful of my life- and that’s saying something.  I’ve never cried so many tears, and I didn’t know I had so many inside me that I could cry.  I withdrew and sank down to a dark space where I thought about all of the things that have happened trying to figure out what was wrong with me.  One person pulled me out of it, in a single conversation.  It was as if I had received a download that updated my whole system. I had clarity.  I began sleeping again.  I felt a sense of happiness that previously had eluded me.   I had a defect in my processing system that was blocking my ability to perceive being loved.  I did not know it, and up until that moment, I could not see it.

Sometimes the answer is right in front of you, but you cannot see it until you are ready.

I’m writing this today, because so many of you feel you are in a dark place, full of conflict and confusion.  It’s okay to be in that place.  It doesn’t mean you are a damaged, broken thing.  It means you are human, and you are struggling to understand your place in the world, and how you fit in to the grand scheme of things. It is normal to feel anxious, and worried.  You are not ending.  You will continue.  The tides come in and out, and no one ever thinks there’s something wrong when they see it.  But with humans, we perceive that we must be ‘this’ or ‘that’ or something is wrong.  Embrace your fears, and you will find that when you allow them to make themselves known, they reveal their purpose.

If you are afraid, it’s okay to admit it, and to reach out for help and feedback.  Situations and relationships can heal and repair.  Not everything that is painful or makes you feel uncomfortable is meant as a sign to leave them behind.  I do believe that we have a purpose here, and that purpose can be as simple as being there in a time of uncertainty and darkness for other people, or to hang in there for someone who needs your support. It does not make them weak, and it doesn’t make you a sucker.  These labels and judgements are the reason we keep ourselves stuck and fearful.  Giving in to your heart’s desires does not make you a fool.  Please stop believing that.  Your heart is the true place that hears the words of God.  God isn’t concerned with your station in life, or what kind of car you drive.  God, or perhaps a more appropriate name to use, the Force, is always there, speaking to us.

Luke Skywalker was always surrounded by the Force, but it was only when he was made aware of it by Obi-Wan Kenobi, that he could choose to listen ot it, and let it flow through him.  But being aware is only the first step.  It was Yoda who showed him how to use it.

So how is it that I got from my divorce and current personal discovery to Star Wars and the Force?  I’ve been thinking a lot about Star Wars, and felt inspired to watch the original trilogy, and notice things that I previously didn’t see– once again, timing is everything.  I reluctantly admit, that I actually love it.  The first time I saw Star Wars was 1977 at the drive-in with my parents.  I sat in the back seat of our purple Dodge Charger in my Howdy Doody pajamas and watched in amazment as spaceships traveled throughout the galaxy, and incredible battles were being fought until my tiny eyes fell heavy with sleep.  I’m 41 now, and I’m awake, watching again and seeing things that I couldn’t see before because I am now in a different place.

Have patience with yourself.

Appreciate the love that is in your life.

Accept that the Dark Side is part of life as much as the Light.

May the Force be with you.

Self-Aware is not Self-Centered

•May 19, 2016 • Leave a Comment

From the very beginning, I’ve let it be very clear that this blog is largely about my own spiritual experiences.  I share these to help others find solace that they are not alone in their spiritual experiences. They can be so varied and intricate, that no two are exactly alike.  I believe in the power of taking the events of my life, and using them to find a higher meaning that will serve a higher purpose and usefulness in my life as well as those of my readers.  My words are never meant to be a gospel for you to live by, but a place for you to relate your own experiences and entertain the idea that there can be useful insight when seen through the eyes of a different perspective.  I love and respect everyone who reads this blog, and has supported my life’s purpose just by reading these words.

 I’ve found a universal truth in the many conversations I’ve been privileged to have with people who have shared their stories with me.  I’ve learned that the only truth we can possibly know, is our own.  The only way that I can understand your truth is to find a commonality that would allow me to build a bridge from where I’m standing in my own truth. In conversation with self-aware people, you will often hear them speaking about things from their perspective, and then using comparisons to come to an understanding. You may hear “The way this feels to me is…,” or, “In my past experiences I’ve observed…”  These are statements that come from an individual who is aware enough to speak on what he or she has experienced, while simultaneously communicating a respect that the person they are speaking to may not have experienced the same event the same way.   Spiritually awakened people communicate with one another with one common goal- connection.  Establishing connection is everything to us.  But there is another scenario that takes this beautiful concept and turns it into something ugly.  This is where ‘self-aware,’ becomes ‘self-centered.’   When someone who is not self-aware participates in a conversation with someone who is, all they perceive is that the conversation is being hijacked and re-framed around the other person.  It becomes a threat.  Beings who are insecure, or ‘playing the game,’ rather than being in their authenticity, will make you the source of the negative emotions they are feeling. Hence, you will hear them accuse you, of being all about you.  For them, conversation is not a means of understanding and connection, but a way of establishing status and identity, mistaking what they are hearing as selfishness.  Many of us are guilty of walking into situations where the very people who want to be perceived as ‘open,’ invited us to share our feelings, only to mock them behind our backs.

For every misunderstood soul, who by stepping back to give another space has been called rude, or who by speaking from their own viewpoint with the intention of respecting that others may have experienced something differently have been called self-centered, please know that you are simply a vibrational mismatch for the situation or environment you are in.  There is nothing wrong with you, and there is no reason to feel that you need to change yourself.  It is not a criminal act to love yourself enough, not to tolerate hurtful behavior directed at you, and to create healthy boundaries that help you feel safe to be in your authenticity.  If you are a lamb, it is not wise to sleep with lions.  If you are awake, it will not serve you to struggle to be understood by those who are sleeping.  Find the ‘3rd’ option, and go in the direction that your speaks to your soul.

Tell It Like It Is!

•February 16, 2016 • Leave a Comment

We all have recurring themes in our lives that we chalk up to coincidence, bad luck, or blame on outside influences.  The truth is, they are none of those.  They are forms of communication from that place of knowing inside of us and if we take the time to work with them, they transform us.  One of my biggest personal lessons in this life has been to have the courage to use the power of my voice.   The most recent symbol from Spirit for this specific lesson was written about in a previous post, which you can find here.

When a lesson is presented by Spirit as something you are meant to learn or understand, the signs you receive are often repetitive. This way, you are sure to trust them.  Today’s blog will give you some insight of how this one continues to present itself in my life, and why this lesson is of such great importance to me to take this opportunity to use my voice in regard to a very specific topic.

As human beings, we naturally look for solutions to ease the pain and unpleasantness of our situations in life.  But we don’t live in a society that values truth.  We live in a society that values capitalism.  So, naturally, the response from a business perspective is to give the people what they want.  This has led to a lot of seemingly helpful products that are presented in the guise of being the complete solution to what ails you, and yet, falls very short of the mark.

Spirit has taken me through many experiences to show me that there is a need for spiritual warriors here.  When I see people that are let down when their expectations are not met, and even worse, they are blaming themselves for ‘not doing it right,’ I can’t help but feel that fire in the pit of my belly, asking me to do what is necessary to stop this unnecessary misery.  One of the worst offending misrepresentations in the spiritual self-help genre is the  illusion that all of our ‘negative’ emotions and traumas can be washed away into thinking happy thoughts.  This is nonsense.  Nothing exists without a purpose, even if it creates discomfort, sadness, grief, or pain.  Ignoring these natural forms of communication from our own beings is detrimental. No rain, no rainbow.  The real gold is in being taught how to work with and through these feelings,  not in pushing them away.

The predominant attitude at large that it’s someone else’s job to solve our problems is creating a world where we are less and less in touch with ourselves.  We are all too busy with the ‘important’ things, and have no time to give to such matters as healing our traumas.  Why put ourselves through the anguish of examining our difficult feelings when we can pay a ‘shrink’ to take care of it for us?  That’s a very easy question to answer.   It’s easier for us to give someone else the responsibility of handling the difficult tasks in life.  But what’s the trade-off?  Giving away the responsibility, also gives away your power.

You know all of those books out there that tell you how powerful you are?  They are right.  You are powerful, and yet the counterpart to really standing in your power– taking responsibility for it– appears to be oddly absent, doesn’t it? Recognize that when something is uncomfortable, it is calling your attention to it, so you can use your power to transform it.   If you are truly following your path, your guidance will always be present, even when you think you are just disappearing into the sweet escape of watching sci-fi in your pajamas.

You are worth more than the collection of books on your shelf, filled with the theories of other people.  Have the courage to have an original thought, and to gain knowledge through your own personal experience.  Rely on you!


From the Deck of I AM, by Deb Barrett,

With Love and Respect for all of my Readers, ❤️

The Love of Spirit and Angelic Connections

•February 15, 2016 • Leave a Comment

Last year around this time, I was out having lunch at the Ninety-Nine with my Bestie.  As we waited for our food to be served, I flipped through the pages of the latest edition of Wisdom Magazine.  As I looked at the articles, I noticed a single word on one of the pages jumped out at me, 3-D Spiritual style– ‘lightarian.’  I didn’t know what it meant, but I knew if it was appearing all shiny and sparkly it was because it had significance.   “Hmm,” I said, “I don’t know what it is, but that is something.”

After we finished our lunch, we headed off to The Sanctuary, right on 6A in Barnstable Village on beautiful Cape Cod, Massachusetts.  I had only just heard about this little shop, and was very excited to visit.  When we arrived, we were greeted by a sense of warmth.  The fireplace was lit, and the store was filled with all sorts of treasures, from jewelry and artwork to oracle cards and magical tools.  My Bestie and I took our time, exploring all of the nooks and crannies of the space.  I could feel in my bones that the energy here was of a high vibration, and that is something that I look for whenever I enter any space, but especially a ‘new age’ shop.

As we started back toward the front desk,  the lady at the counter asked, “Are there any questions I can answer for you?”  It was Karen, the smiling face that first welcomed us to The Sanctuary.  My spidey senses were tingling when she asked us this, and I immediately flashed back to that word- “Do you have anyone here who does ‘Lightarian’ work?” I asked.   The answer was a resounding, “Yes, we do!”  This is where I first learned about the AngelLinks™, a series of attunements that connect you to a Seraphim named Rose Aura, and to each of the 4 Archangels.  I intuitively knew this was what Spirit had intended for me to be drawn to.  I took home the brochure that explained these attunements and made a phone call to Rev. Amy Marino, who was the store’s proprietor, and the facilitator for the AngelLinks™.

A day or so passed by, and I found myself in my car, driving back from my lunch break.  I was only working part-time, and did not have any extra money to spend on things I deemed non-essential to living.   I was thinking out loud.  “The only way I can afford to pay for these attunements is if I can take one class a month, over the next 5 months.”   I knew I would be moving to Florida by the end of June, and I did not want to miss out on this opportunity I was being guided to experience.  Within minutes of having this thought, Amy returned my call.  I asked about the process, and if I would have to make individual appointments for each attunement.  This was the moment that any doubt I had, was wiped from my mind.  She told me that a few people who had one or two of the attunements were suddenly calling her to take the others, and since there was enough interest, she was putting together a schedule of one attunement per month, that would be done with a small group.  My smile must have been enormous.  I silently thanked Spirit, and signed up for the first class, which was the attunement to Rose Aura, on February 14th, Valentine’s Day.  What a perfect day to express my gratitude for the Love of Spirit.

One year later, almost to the day, it has been become clear that the time has come for me to share these AngelLinks™ with others.  As such, I am currently taking appointments to pass on these attunements, which have greatly enriched my relationship with the Angels, and brought me a new sense of being connected to Spirit.

Please click on the image below for more information, and to sign up for your personal attunements!




The Lightarian Institute for Global Human Transformation

The Sanctuary



The art of interpreting signs from Spirit

•February 1, 2016 • 1 Comment

When we first begin to converse with Spirit, it is easy to dismiss the things we receive as coincidence or imagination.  We are taught to believe what we see with our physical eyes, and can prove in the physical world. Spirit communication, however, is not the same as one physical being having a conversation with another. The unseen world, although it is all around us, can feel like a fantasy.  This blog will help dispel some of your doubts and preconceived notions about how Spirit communication comes across– as always, using my own personal experiences as examples.

Spirit is persistent, and will not give up until you receive the message that is coming through to you.  You may think you heard something that sounded like it pertained to you, for example, while watching a movie, then later, overhear a conversation while in line at the grocery store that sounds oddly like the answer to your question. You may see various symbols that appear over and over, everywhere you find yourself.  Because we ask so many questions in our minds on a daily basis, we may be unaware that our energies are not only being perceived by Spirit, but are a bit scattered, which can result in receiving messages that appear to be confusing.

Throughout my life, Bear has been one of my most sacred symbols.  I have come to understand that Bear is one of my Totem Animals.  I have had many experiences with Animal Spirits who have appeared to me in dreams, or have shown up as signs in my life when I’ve asked for help in how to handle a situation at hand.  Each animal has its own ‘Medicine.’  There have been several instances where I have had very lucid dreams, in which I’m on a path in the woods and am joined by Wolf, a powerful spirit animal that represents the highest Teacher in the animal spirit kingdom.  I would walk alongside with Wolf, and suddenly understand things instantly that up until that point made no sense to my waking mind, waking up with clarity, and a sense of calm.  Recently, though, I began a course in animal communication that requires me to complete a series of exercises, one of which, is to discover your ‘Power Animal.’   I didn’t really think too much about this, because I had so many experiences with powerful animals like Bear, Wolf, Panther and Hawk.  I thought, ‘one of these must fit that description.’  In the following couple of weeks, I got busy, unable to really sit and focus on these exercises, yet still keeping the thought in mind- ‘Who is my Power Animal?’

NOTE:  Because signs and symbols often appear over a longer length of time in the beginning of your development, it is crucial for you to document anything you notice in your journal, as suggested in my previous post.

The answer came in an interesting sequence of experiences that all pointed to the same, surprising answer.    Over a period of about a month, the Lion made himself known.

   I was nudged to notice images everywhere I went, ranging from architecture, to business logos, Internet memes, and clothing/accessories.  Then, there were the dreams.  They were recurring.  I would be in a dorm, a house, or apartment, and the Lion would be following me.  In one instance, no matter how hard I tried, Lion found me.  I was behind a locked door, and saw his powerful paws, reaching for me from underneath the door!  I was confused because I didn’t feel he would hurt me, but something else told me, ‘hey, this is a lion, and they are dangerous, so you might want to run!’

At this point, I knew the Lion was reaching out to me- literally!   The next step was, ‘why?’  I didn’t understand what this meant.  I looked it up in various resources, but as you know, it’s not always in someone else’s research that you find YOUR answer.  So last night, before I went to sleep, I asked for a sign in a dream.  I also asked that I be awoken from the dream, so I would remember it.  Sure enough, I dreamed of the Lion, but this time he wasn’t chasing me  He simply appeared in all of his majesty.  In a flash, I saw him as a sculpture outside a building.  I woke up instantly, and said out loud, ‘Lion is guarding me.’  I knew at that point, that not only was Lion working with me to guard me through the powerful medicine of his roar, he is my Power Animal.  The qualities that I’ve been guided to exhibit, particularly leadership, are all part of this Medicine.  I got my answer, and now my real work begins.

So as you can see, intuitive work and receiving answers is definitely not the same as a traditional conversation.  You have to have the patience and openness to listen with different senses, and the faith of a child to trust that they are real.  Your journey is your own, and no one else will have the exact same experience with the Divine that you have.   If, however, you would like a little guidance in your development, you may reach out to me at to schedule a Personal Development session with me.  I love hearing how Spirit reaches out to people, and I am always happy to be a part of another’s journey back to Spirit.

To be of Service to Others, or to Self?

•January 8, 2016 • Leave a Comment

There are many of us right now, who are discovering the myths behind what we thought were our truths. This year is all about that, so it’s fitting, and if you are one of them, you’re on track.   Something that needs to be addressed in the process of self-discovery is self-love.

Like many others, I have had my own struggles with understanding what the difference is between being loving and kind to myself, versus being selfish.  I’ve also struggled with that calling to be of service, while trying to understand how that translated into self-care.  Spirit has shown me through my own experiences, that there is a need for clarity in this area.

I am brought to a time when I was so down in the dumps I couldn’t see my way out.  Others came to me for help, and the tiny bit of strength I could muster was given freely, as my calling to help others is so deep.  As is the case with many of us, I found that my great love for helping others did not seem to be reciprocated.  In my humanness, I thought about what that might mean.  Was I not giving enough, even still?  Was I not worthy of receiving?  Is this from a past life or am I paying some kind of Karmic debt? It’s normal to look for reasons when something is not working the way we anticipated it would work.

In that space, I was asked to think about what it was I was giving the people who needed my help.  Was I being fully present with them?  Perhaps not.  How could I, when I was in such a state of discomfort, depletion and hopelessness?  Was I giving them a clear picture of what was possible?  Maybe, but not from my own example.  It’s tough to see much from that deep place of processing grief, shame, or the other emotions that are considered ‘negative.’

So the lessons is this- self-care, self-love, and self-development are key to being whole and healthy.  We can’t wait for someone to pick us up and dust us off.  We must find that within ourselves.  You may be asking, “If I have nothing left to give, what can I possibly give even myself?”  That’s where the truth comes in.  We are not just these physical beings.  We carry a seed of the Light of God in all of us.  That seed is the door to our strength.  The strength within you is the Light within you. You may not realize it, but it’s that place of Light inside of you that you are calling in when you help others, and it’s that same place that will help you to help yourself as well.

You’re not just your body, and your body/brain, is not the source of all things.  Use them as tools and resources, by all means, but do not mistake that they are your only source!  Your connection to the Light of God, is what makes you who you are.  It’s not your education, style of fashion, choice of automobile or your job.  Those are all things that are physical, but they do not define the whole of who we are.   At the end of the day, you can lose all of those things- even your physical body, and you will still have your Light.

You are entitled to the full spectrum of the Love and care you offer others, and it is available to you, always.  Call upon it when you need it.  The supply is Limitless.

2016: The Year of Manifestation

•January 1, 2016 • Leave a Comment

Manifestation is a hot topic, and there are plenty of ‘experts’ that will tell you, or rather ‘sell’ you, how it all works.   Just like you, I, too, have had my eyes and ears open to the maelstrom of information that exists on the topic.  And like most things, I’ve found that when it comes to how to accomplish something, there’s only one way that works for me- my way.

No, I’m not ego-tripping on you!  When I’m helping others, I often try to use story as a method to illustrate this very point.  I’ve been through workshops, readings, training and certification on various techniques on how to do one thing or another.  The exercise wasn’t really to find ‘the way,’ but to observe and uncover the hidden truths in the applications of techniques and methods- resulting in what I call, ‘my way.’   In the end, the truth that always rings the loudest-

To thine own self, be true.

Now be careful with your definitions.  Words don’t always mean what you say with your lips.  Before there are words, there are ideas.  In order to communicate them, we use the words available to us to explain.  Sometimes it doesn’t always translate, as is the case when people use a phrase such as this.  It can easily be taken as a self-important, pompous way of being. But consider this-  that is only the case when we separate ourselves from all that is, as if we are not connected, not a part of all that is.   Read that last sentence aloud, and then see if you find a difference in where you are coming from when you now repeat the phrase, ‘to thine own self, be true.’

2016 is the collective reawakening of humanity to the idea that there is strength within communion that is not attainable through separation.  What I mean is this-  in comtemporary society, it’s acceptable to think in terms of Darwinsm, even if you don’t necessarily subscribe to that teaching.  We are tiny machines, competing for resources and only those who separate themselves from the pack and rise above it are successful.  This mindset is responsible for every act of violence taken in everyday life.  The fear behind the thoughts that we must be stronger than the next person, and eliminate competition for resources in order to survive and thrive, creates a system of subsequent values that move us even further in the direction of separation.  The result?  War on a multitude of levels, including war within our own selves.  It is true that change is not easy or comfortable, but I believe we are coming into an age of awareness that will allow us to adopt the concept that we are all connected, and that everything you do affects others, and everything others do, affects you.  In this model, all of us have a stake in doing the right thing because it makes a better world for all of us- thy self, included. So celebrate the accomplishments of others.  Be in awe and appreciation of the things your fellow brothers and sisters have and are- because they are yours as well, by virtue of our connection to all there is and to one another.

So what does this have to do with manifestation?  Well, if you are willing to become aware of your connection to all there is, then you can’t help but notice that you have access to all there is.  And if you know that we are all connected, you also can’t help but notice that means you are in communication with all there is.  This is an important shift.  As you awaken to this sense of connection, you are also becoming aware of the aspects of your self.

You = Thought/Mind + Emotion/Heart + Intuition/Spirit.

Each aspect of our ‘self,’ has a role and function.  Manifestation does not come from thoughts alone. Big news flash- Thoughts do not program your entire being. They are not responsible for the whole of you! Thoughts attempt to explain and decipher, and that is where you are lead down the primrose path of confusion. The way to the Truth, is to become aware of the other aspects of yourself that a you are discounting, and allow them to be a part of the conversation.  The Heart is the bridge that connects Thought and Spirit through Emotion. Once you begin to see this as the true ‘Trinity,’ within, you will begin to understand what real wholeness is about, and for the first time, perhaps, alignment is possible!

So, my dear readers, the key to manifestation is awakening to our whole, recognizing your connection to all living things, in being in communion with all there is.  Once you come from this place, and not a place of fear, separation, and hierarchy, the universe conspires to bring you what you seek, and you begin to see synchronicities and omens that validate the process.

It would be so much easier to sell you a package for $199 that will give you the steps to manifestation, and then continue to sell you the sequel and so on, but my purpose here is not to keep you attached to me, it is to set you free!

Wishing all of you a Blessed 2016! Happy New Year!

This is your year to transform!

This is your year to transform!

Moving Past Your Blocks, Part 2:  Your Shadow is Your Friend

•December 27, 2015 • Leave a Comment

Sometimes the darkness can show you the light!

Christmas Moon 2015

If you read my blog on how to move past your blocks and into your future, and have started the process, then this is a good time for you to move on to the next phase.

Simply gazing up at the beautiful Christmas moon, shows you the power of the Darkness, as the Light of that beautiful heavenly body pierced the night sky.  So too, can your darkness show you, your powerful Light within.

The Shadow Self, a term coined by Carl Jung is the part of us that we keep hidden from the world, and oftentimes, from ourselves.  This is not necessarily a conscious decision, however, taking steps to explore it and what it holds is a conscious choice.  After you have been journaling for some time, you will begin to notice things that didn’t pop up into your awareness before.  These are your personal Shadows, and they can help you move forward if you allow yourself to look at them without judgement.  For example, you may have been writing about your career, or lack of one.  Perhaps you will find that there are words or phrases you use frequently in your journaling about this topic.  Look carefully.  Pretend you are looking into the heart of another person, who is allowing you to peer into the window of their soul, revealing their darkest secrets.  Are you seeing patterns that suggest you feel undeserving of a successful career?  Do you detect an undertone that implies that people who seek to have an abundance of money are immoral?  These concepts may sound silly on the surface, but when we take the time to dig deep, there are patterns and beliefs, operating underneath the surface that are the origin of our blocks.

In order to move past these blocks, you must first acknowledge them.  Let yourself sit in the vibration of the thought pattern you’ve uncovered.  You can do this actively, thinking about it as you clean up around the house, or take a walk, or you can be still and meditate on it.  Either is fine, as long as it feels good to you.  Ask yourself if there may have been a specific instance or age when you first came to believe this to be true.  Go with the first thing that comes to you, and try not to second-guess.   The answers are not right or wrong in this process, and it is quite personal, so be compassionate with yourself as you move through it.  You may find something as simple as an incident from your childhood where you saw someone who had a lot of money using it to do evil things, for example.  You may have overheard a conversation at a young age around what is a good career choice or a bad one.  One simple thought can implant itself in your energy field and act like a virus, hijacking your dreams and personal fulfillment.

Once you have this information, your next step is to ask it to be released.  Intuitively, most people have a gut feeling of a ‘yes’ or ‘no,’ but you may also use a pendulum, muscle testing, or other form of accessing your subconscious that feels appropriate.

If you sense there is a ‘no’ or ‘stop’ energy around it when you ask if it is okay to clear the pattern, let it be.  There may be a number of reasons for this, such as a lesson your soul is trying to learn, or that you may not be ready to let it go.  This doesn’t excuse you from giving it the attention it needs to move past it. It simply means there is more for you to ask your Shadow about.  Continue to journal about what you have uncovered and repeat the process of reviewing your writing after a period of time, and ask again, if it is appropriate to remove it from your energy field.

If you sense an intuitive ‘yes’ or ‘go,’ then you may use the method of your choosing to relase the energy of the belief or pattern from your energy field.  Since we all have our own ways of intuitively sensing information, I will not prescribe one single way to clear your pattern, as one way does not work for everyone.  Some people find that visualizing themselves surrounded by pure Source Energy works well.  Others find that it’s helpful to feel or sense where the pattern exists in their aura and use their hands pull it into a bubble of light they send straight to God.  Doreen Virtue has a clearing meditation which may be helpful if you feel you need a bit of guidance in your process.  However you feel is best for you, is the right way.

If you’ve successfully removed the pattern,  you will feel a shift, or difference in your energy field of some kind.  It may be subtle or it may be big and booming.  Let it be what it is without judging it.  If you do not feel that it has been removed, you may try another technique, or you may try going back to your Shadow to ask for more information about the problem you are trying to clear.

As we look forward to 2016, creating our New Year’s Resolutions, it’s also important to also peer into our Shadow and see what is hiding there. You wouldn’t fill a filthy house with new furniture before you cleaned it out, would you? So it’s time to clean house to make room for the all the new, wonderful experiences ahead of you!

Tiny, salty, badges of courage

•December 6, 2015 • Leave a Comment

Today I need to share something very urgent with all of you.  This is a message about the Truth in your tears, and the preciousness inside of you that we call emotions. 

Most people find themselves unhappy, seeking out things in the physical world to give them this feeling of joy.  At some point, we realize we’ve reached a point where we’ve got to start looking elsewhere. Material things didn’t do it.  Money didn’t quite make the mark either.  Working out and sculpting our body maybe fell short as well.  

I’m here to tell you, that you have come to this place because you are a seeker of Light, not happiness.

You see, much of the ‘self-help’ movement has focused on how we can manipulate our minds and trick ourselves into feeling better.  If that truly were the answer, there wouldn’t need to be any more books, speeches or gurus to get us there…. and yet, there are, and here we are.

Feelings, my dear readers, are a precious gift.  They are a way of experiencing the world in a body.  Yes, we have our 5 senses, but we also have our emotions, which are discounted and treated as inconvenience.  Yet, we continue to seek.  We continue to find that one holy grail emotion, happiness, through artificial means.  Let me ask this question.  Do you really even know what happiness means?  Is happiness falling in love?  Is it being greeted by a puppy who is excited to see you?  Is it the feeling secure in the arms of a loved one, or the face of a child who trusts us to care for them?

We are coming at this from the wrong angle.  Some of you may have answered ‘yes’ to the aforementioned scenarios.  But heres the thing-  they are just scenarios.  How you feel about them, and what you feel about them is not the scenario, itself, but the internal process of experiencing the scenario.  

Feelings are not to be ignored, manipulated or confused into being other feelings.  They are messengers.  They provide insight into your current state of experiencing the world.  They allow you to experience things from your heart space, which is nothing to scoff at.  We’re tricked into this way of thinking about ourselves as these little machines, run by our brain and powered by thoughts alone.  We are not.  We have emotions because they are an integral part of our experience.  

Emotions are the bridge between the Soul and the Body. That is why the lower or more ‘physical’ chakras and the higher or more ‘spiritual’ chakras meet in the middle, at the Heart Chakra. 

My title speaks of one particular kind of emotion- the kind that illicit those beautiful little badges of salty courage, and love that spill from our eyes, sometimes without our permission.  These are the emotions of grief, sadness, shame, lonliness, pain, regret, and fear.  This is only a small sampling of what kinds of feelings may bring you to tears, but for the purposes of this blog post, they will suffice.  Tears are not acceptable in Western society.  We are taught that from an early age.  Tears mean you are weak.  Tears mean you have CHOSEN to be a victim.  Tears mean you are shameful. Tears mean you cannot control yourself.  Lastly, tears mean there is something very wrong.

Tears, can be many things.  I will list a few examples here.

– Relief

– Letting go

– Strength or endurance

– Cleansing 

– An outpouring of Love or Joy that we cannot contain but must allow to flow through us

One thing tears are not.  Tears are never ‘wrong.’ 

Your thoughts and emotions are not separate.  They are different.  I like to describe thoughts as the way we process situations from the collective information we hold in our brains, and emotion as the way we experience a situation with our Hearts.   You cannot think yourself out of a feeling, and you cannot feel yourself out of your thinking (although sometimes it feels that way).  They both have something to say, to contribute to the conversation that is your experience of the world.

Please, honor your feelings, especially your tears.  They need not be public, but they should always be listened to.  The next time you experience an emotion that brings you to tears, allow them to happen, and then speak to them.  Ask them what message they have for you.  Connect them to your thoughts, but never mistake them as thoughts.  Your emotions and thoughts are holding hands, and exist to assist you on your journey here.  Respect them both, and your world will transform. 

How to move past blocks and into your future

•November 25, 2015 • 1 Comment

There are so many different approaches and systems that are in the self-help genre, it can be difficult to choose which one is right for you.  For many of the people I’ve worked with, a sense of failure quickly follows when whatever the newest trend in self-help, and self-healing didn’t yield the results they were looking for.  This has been a sense of frustration for me, personally, over the years as well.  Until now.

What I’ve discovered is the first step to any self-help approach has to begin with self-examination.  If you had to plan a party, for example, you wouldn’t just go out and buy up whatever you saw in the party store and plop it all down on the counter.  There’s a thought process that goes into planning a party, and there’s a thought process that goes into self-healing.  After all, you could be setting up for a Bat-Mitzvah, when you wanted to end up with a Graduation party.  The process makes a BIG difference in the end result.

Step 1

Since most of who find ourselves in a pinch try to think ourselves out of it, let’s start with your thinking.  Do you even know what you’re really thinking, or what words you use most?  This is important, because so many of us are stuck in a pattern that keeps repeating because we are unaware of them.  So how do you get aware?  You need to start writing things down.  Journaling is one of those things that is recommended by almost every guru I’ve ever come across and there’s a good reason for it.  It helps you to get out your thoughts without anyone’s judgement, which can be a calming exercise.  It also gives you the opportunity to be totally honest, because this journal is not meant for anyone else to read.  This is a healing process in and of itself.  Being bottled up often leads to destructive behaviors and can lead to illness.  Human beings weren’t meant to hold things in, but we don’t necessarily need to share them with other human beings to get them out.

You may be thinking, “Can’t I just go to the gym and work out my frustrations there?” or “I meditate to get calm myself, and I think that’s enough.”  Those are valid ways of working out frustrations, and I applaud you for realizing that you are frustrated enough to actually implement a practice.  However, like the party-planning, there’s something to be said for the method and the results it yields.  You can jog until you’re too exhausted to remember why you were upset to begin with.  You can meditate and reach amazing states of altered consciousness, melting away the worries of the world.  But here’s what journaling does that other practices does not.

You may think you talked it out in your own mind while you were exercising, or you may feel you got a sense of peace from your spiritual practice, but the pen is mightier than the sword!  When you journal, you’re using the written word, which is very powerful, especially if you handwrite, because your energy is pouring out along with those words onto paper.  In addition, you are creating a written record of events, and thoughts that you may not be aware of if you simply let those thoughts pass and be on your merry way.  At first, your journal may seem like page after page of ranting. That’s okay.  We all need to do that sometimes, and it’s the first step to this process!  When you’re writing in your journal, no one can see so they cannot judge, but it’s also important for you not to judge yourself either.  Don’t think about what is right or wrong to write down.  Just think and record.  Pretend that you’re in a courtroom and you’re taking down every word that is uttered during a trial.  Doesn’t matter which ones are valid in that scenario, does it?  What’s important is the record.  It doesn’t hav to be a certain length.  When you feel you’re finished with your thoughts, you’re finished with your writing.  This process requires commitment, but it doesn’t require any set standards or rules to follow.

For those of you who are drawn to this blog and this post in particular, I’d like to ask you to give this a try for a period of 1 week.  That’s it.  Set aside a time each day where you won’t be interrupted and make sure to write once a day.  You can do more than that if you feel guided to, but once a day is usually how most people start.

Stay tuned for Part 2, and please feel free to comment here.

*I am not a licensed mental health professional, and none of what is written intended as medical or psychiatric advice. If you are having a serious issue, please seek the help of a medical or psychiatric health professional.*

Namaste.  I see you.

“Hello? Is anyone there?”

•October 29, 2015 • Leave a Comment

Upon going to bed, have you ever had thoughts about what might be hiding in the dark?  Perhaps you even look under the bed.  Maybe you can’t sleep unless your closet door is closed.  The dark is scary, but why?   Logic would tell us that everything should be just the same as it is with the lights on, with the only exception being that we do not have the ability to see it in the absence of light.  So why is it that so many of us are afraid of the dark?

The dark is when things are quiet.  It’s a time when our other senses are naturally heightened to make up for our lack of visibility.  This means that we may hear things that wouldn’t catch our attention during the day when there are a multitude of sounds and distractions around us.

When your senses are heightened, it’s important that you maintain your sense of calm, and there are a couple of reasons for this.  First, it’s entirely possible to drive yourself crazy with anxiety and fear, sending adrenaline into your system at the slightest sound.  In this case, yes, it is all in your head- and your body chemistry.  However, the second reason is that your vibration is like a magnet for anything with a similar vibration.  You are like an antenna, sending and receiving signals.  And when that signal goes out, it WILL attract!

Yes, I’m going to say it.  It is possible for entities to find you and to draw near to you because you are broadcasting, knowingly or unknowingly.

So when you’re laying in bed silently thinking, “Is there anyone there?” someone will most certainly hear you and respond.   Although it can happen at any time, during this time of year, the veil between the worlds is very thin, and spirits are much more aware of us, as we are of them.  Since like attracts like, keeping your vibration high and your energy field clean is essential to keeping yourself protected and safe.The natural and supernatural world is filled with opposing forces. It is naive to disregard or scuff off the notion that the Dark co-exists with the Light.

This is not to say that you should obsess over it or put your focus there, but if you are going to play in the etheric realms, you must be aware. Just as we put on a seatbelt as a measure of caution when we get in a car, we must also take care to protect ourselves when we connect with Spirit.

So how do you manage this process?  Glad you asked!

  1.  Like attracts like, so the easiest way to keep the Boogey Man at bay is to vibrate at a higher vibration.  You certainly don’t want lower!  The energies that vibrate faster, are the ones that will bring you peace and protection, such as loved ones, guides and angels.  How?  During your day, monitor your thoughts and feelings.  If you find yourself being more negative than positive, catch yourself and try to repeat the thought in a more positive or loving light.  For example, if you are at work and a customer snaps at you, you may think, “this person sucks.”  Catch yourself and then think a more positive thought such as, “this person is struggling so much he/she could use some kindness and care.”  You’ll find that it motivates you in your actions as well as keeping your vibrations high.
  2. Keep yourself clean!  I say this in a playful way, but seriously as well.  All day long we are walking through fields of energy.  If your energy field isn’t clean and strong, you will be affected much more strongly and often by the energy you encounter during your day.  My suggestion is to develop your own script for an evening meditation, asking for Divinity, your angels, Jesus or whomever you feel comfortable asking, to clear any blocks, repair any holes and to strengthen your auric field.  Some people like to use the chakras as a way to gage any energetic blocks or issues, which is also a way to clear your energy.  Find what feels right for you, and do it!
  3. Whenever opening up to Spirit, always have a ritual of setting protection and intention.  Lots of people simply imagine White Light surrounding our entire being as we are doing our spiritual work.  If you like, you can invite your angels or loved ones to lend their energy and protection as you are entering this space.
  4. Choose a time and place that will be comfortable for you to connect to Spirit.  In your bedroom at night probably isn’t the best choice.  If you have little privacy, a better choice may be the bathroom!  Perhaps the best time for you to connect is during your morning preparation.  Spirit hears your thoughts, so you can brush your teeth and talk to Spirit at the same time.  Morning may be less frightening than night, and the bathroom or other area is probably less frightening than your bedroom.
  5. Don’t forget to close the door!  When you’ve opened up and invited the Spirit world to join you, it’s vital that you intentionally set some sort of guidelines for ‘closing’ the door when you are through.  You wouldn’t send out an invitation for a party without designating a specific time slot, and it’s no different with Spirit.  Leave the door open, and you will find very quickly that missing this step will be much like having a party that never ends because your guests don’t know when to go home.  They came because you invited them, so give them the courtesy of letting them know when communication is done, and you are closed for business.

As always, I am here to help!  If you have a specific question or would like to explore your personal path, you can email me at  Personal sessions are confidential and can give you an opportunity to open up with someone who certainly understands where you’re coming from.

~Happy Halloween!~IMG_3273

In Love, we live forever

•August 29, 2015 • Leave a Comment

For a long time now, Spirit has been guiding me to speak to people  about Death.  I’ve been meditating and blending with their energy as much as I can so I can find a way to pass on this message.  Here it is.

When we are born, we are in a dark place, waiting to emerge into the arms of people who are here waiting for us.  We arrive vulnerable and must trust that we are in the good hands of people who will care for us.  Loved ones gather to greet us.  People fuss to make sure we are comfortable.   There is so much joy surrounding us as we are welcomed by the new world around us.

When we are born, those who make up our Soul Family in Heaven send us off with Love, wish us well, and promise to keep watch over us while we are in our incarnated form.  A part of us stays behind, as our Souls are made of Light, and when our Light touches the Light of another, some of ours is deposited there and becomes part of their Light as well.

When we die, we are not necessarily in a dark place, though we can feel that we are leaving all of the Light of our lives and the world.  We are vulnerable and dependent on those around us for comfort and care.  And when we cross the threshold, our Loved ones are there waiting to receive us.  There is joy surrounding us as we are welcomed to the world of Spirit, and into the arms of all those Souls who know us and are part of our Light Family.

When we die, our families, and the people we lived our lives with, see us off, promising to pray for us and talk to us even when they can no longer see us in our physical existence. They tell us that we will be a part of them forever, always in their Hearts.

When you love someone, your Light blends with theirs. The piece of your Light that you share, never goes away or disappears. It simply becomes part of another's Light.

When you love someone, your Light blends with theirs. The piece of your Light that you share, never goes away or disappears. It simply becomes part of another’s Light.

When we die, a tiny piece of us stays behind, on Earth.  We share our Light through giving Love, and when we give our Love, a piece of our Light becomes part of all those we share it with.  When our Light touches the Light of another, some of ours is deposited there and becomes part of their Light as well.

In this way, we never truly die.  Our Light is always alive in one form or another.  The greatness of our Soul, lies in the magic that is our Light, which can be in many places at the same time.

When you love someone, your Light blends with theirs.  The piece of your Light that you share, never goes away or disappears.  It simply becomes part of another’s Light.

In this way, we are all connected.  In this way, we are all the same.  Energy is alive and moving.  It never stays still.  We never stay still.  We are always alive.

The path to eternal life is Love.

Answers from Spirit

•August 26, 2015 • Leave a Comment

Whenever we feel lost or alone, someone is always listening and watching.  Generally speaking, more than one someone is listening and watching.  Some of us have been taught that the only way we are heard is if we actively and formally pray to a specific being, angel, or God.  The real truth is, our thoughts project a vibration that ripples throughout the cosmos, 100% of the time.   In fact, this is why it’s impossible to lose communication with ‘Home.’  We are connected all of the time, and exchanging information even when we are not aware of it.

Spirit understands us completely and is a wonderful Teacher. There is nothing coincidental about the way your messages will come to you.  Many of my messages come to me by way of Nature because it I connect with animals, plants and even the vibration of the land, itself.  If you are similar in nature, you may notice the same. When I moved to Florida in June of this year, I had many internal conversations with my Spirit People around all of the new things that would be a part of my life.  It was a lot of change, very quickly.  The answers came through the wildlife that appeared to me during quiet moments.

I saw Otter, who reminded me that it was okay to take time to be playful and allow things to unfold without so much worry.

"Otter," from Medicine Cards by Jamie Sams & David Carson, Illustrations by Angela Werneke

“Otter,” from Medicine Cards by Jamie Sams & David Carson, Illustrations by Angela Werneke

Rabbit paid me a visit to help me see that my fearful thoughts about the future would chase me and to be mindful of this.

"Rabbit," from Medicine Cards by Jamie Sams & David Carson, Illustrations by Angela Werneke

“Rabbit,” from Medicine Cards by Jamie Sams & David Carson, Illustrations by Angela Werneke

Dragonfly fluttered past me regularly, nudging me to consider that my perception of things was not always reality, and to entertain the notion that the very opposite of what I saw was the real truth. Typically, we think of situations where we think things are okay, and assume Dragonfly is telling us it’s not.  This time, She showed me that when someone seems to be combative, what appears to be an attack is really an attempt to hide their true colors so I wouldn’t see the softness beneath.

"Dragonfly, ' from Medicine Cards by Jamie Sams & David Carson, Illustrations by Angela Werneke

“Dragonfly, ‘ from Medicine Cards by Jamie Sams & David Carson, Illustrations by Angela Werneke

The most important thing to do when you are actively working with your Intuition and Spirit, is to keep a journal, detailing what is happening in your life.  This way, when a sign seems to pop up out of nowhere, you can go back and see what was happening in your life when the sign showed up.  You may notice a pattern emerging.  For example, in times of doubt,  when I’m not even really asking for help or thinking particularly clearly, my main Totem, Bear, will appear.  It’s not until He finds me that I realize the issue at hand isn’t the 100 things I’ve been going over in my mind but my confidence that is behind my resistance to forward-motion.

A note of encouragement for any readers who may be new to receiving Spirit messages-  be patient and kind with yourself, and above all else, discount nothing as imagination.  If you keep your journal and remember to notice what catches your attention is significant, you will develop a vocabulary with Spirit over time that will be of immense comfort and value to you.  Remember also, that although all of us are born with the ability to communicate with Spirit, not all of us are meant to give messages to others.  Focus on your own conversation with Spirit, and see what comes.  Spirit knows your soul and its mission.  To give you clear messages about your own life is no less than prompting you to give them to others.  Everyone receives exactly what is needed to serve their soul’s purpose.

~Namaste, beautiful souls!~

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