Adventures in Spiritual Dating Part 1- The Myth of having to love yourself first
Warning- Beyond this point, I will not apologize for what may or may not offend you. I will be using the language I feel best expresses my experience, and I’ll share a secret with you… I curse like a sailor, and I am spiritual as fuck. You may begin.
So here I am, a spiritual person in the world of the single human, looking for love. What exactly is that like? Well, this is where the fun begins.
If you’re like me, you’ve spent hours on your own ‘self,’ and have come to a place where you’re ready to share your ‘self’ with others. Let me begin by saying that you are an infinite soul and will never be ‘finished’ with your work, so the point at which you decide to invite someone to share your life is your choice. None of us truly has our shit together. In the spiritual community, it’s almost a proverb to say things like, ‘you have to love yourself first.’ I kinda gotta call bullshit on that. The rules of freewill mean you can do whatever the hell you want, for one, and for another, who does anyone think they are to tell YOU that you don’t already love yourself? I loved my dog, Toby when I was 8. I didn’t have a spiritual community to tell me I wasn’t capable of loving him fully, and I stand by that now. Humans love power, control and rules. A ‘spiritual’ person who tries to limit your thinking is not being spiritual, he or she is being human. There are infinite ways to experience infinite Love. Pick one, and then another, and then another. Don’t let anyone tell you what you’re lacking and therefore why you’re not worthy of love or loving someone yet.
If we are all sparks of God and as such we are all part of each other, loving ANYONE ELSE IS loving yourself. We are all expressions of God, seeking to experience such as separate from the whole in this experience. So when I look at you and say, ‘you are so beautiful,’ I am seeing a part of God, and thus a part of me. Bam.
Confessions of a Spirit Messenger 