Adventures in Spiritual Dating- First Dates
When I meet someone, the first impressions I receive often come from my intuitive senses before my intellect kicks in. It’s always been the first thing that I notice when meeting new people. I feel them. Dating is no exception. And yes, I will pick up on things like, ‘this guy thinks he’s a big deal,’ or ‘he’s uncomfortable in his own skin.’ I have a pretty good bullshit detector, but at the same time, I want to see the good in someone so it’s not always easy.
Within minutes, I feel a shift in the vibration and I very naturally match the vibration of the person I’m with. I maintain a slight openness from an empathic standpoint, because, for me, this is one of the ways I experience a person. I’ll find my mind gravitate toward specific thought patterns or topics of conversation without effort, and almost always receive a look or a comment like, ‘it’s funny you should mention that.’
Recently, I went on a date to a Sports Bar, and during the conversation, I suddenly saw a dog in my mind’s eye. Even with the television sets, and the noise of other patrons, it was there. I suddenly interrupted and asked, “do you have a dog?” He said, “Yes, how did you know that?” His expression was pretty suspicious. I sort of casually mentioned that I’m intuitive and that I thought I had mentioned that in my profile. He didn’t really seem to believe me, but he asked me if i knew what breed. I could see that it was back and tan, like a rottweiler, so I asked about the color first and he said, ‘Yes.’ As he searched his phone for a photo. I guessed at the breed, and even though it wasn’t a rottie, he had all the markings, including the giant bear-like paws. Now, you may know that I never ‘work’ when I’m having a drink, and this is no exception. Once the waitress brought over my drink, my ‘closed for business’ sign metaphorically went up and I stopped picking up information.
When I’m asked about myself, it’s relatively difficult to give a straight answer to certain questions, because I don’t really think in a linear way about myself. I will say things like, “I like to help people,” or “I like to spend time in nature,” and for most of my spiritual friends, this is acceptable. More intellectual minds tend to be meticulous, and detail-oriented, so many times I tend to feel like I’m being dissected, and this makes me want to stop sharing. If I try to play the same game, it makes me even more agitated. At this point, I know if there is a connection that is on a deeper level. First dates are like job interviews. If I can’t get to a certain level of comfort, I know it’s going to be an uphill battle and I let the ship go down, as it will.
I relate to other people based on sharing, and finding common ground, not putting puzzle pieces together. I want to hear your stories, and how you felt the first time you rode a bicycle. I want you to understand the look in my eyes when I talk about a pet that I love and express how much I miss her. I don’t want a carbon copy of myself- so don’t mistake what I’m saying there. I want someone who can relate to how I experience the world, even if he doesn’t quite experience it the same way.
Is there a man out there who wants to truly know ‘me’ as a whole person, without pulling me apart, analyzing, comparing and evaluating me on some kind of a scale?
Confessions of a Spirit Messenger 