Yes You Can
So you want to be a spiritual person, but you feel like you’re just missing something, or can’t quite get it right. Your mind wanders when you meditate, and no matter how hard you try to bless everyone you meet, you still want to strangle your co-worker who consistently shoots down all of your ideas in front of the boss.
Who’s grading you?
For each of us on our spiritual journey, we first begin our exploration by looking at what’s out there- in other words, ‘which box do I fit in?’ Is it spiritual to disagree with people who seem to be so sure of their beliefs? Should I keep quiet and politely listen when others direct me on my own path, without solicitation?
**NOTE- before I go any further. There are a number of good people out there who truly care for other people and are doing the best they have with what they were given, both monetarily and from their hearts- Spiritual Teachers included. This blog does not apply to those people.
So many people in the ‘new age community’ talk about being in the light, and the threefold rule, etc., but in my experience this tends to be a sign of spiritual immaturity, rather than the message that I assume is intended which is- “I’m more evolved than you.” I’ve found myself wandering in and out of many groups that appeared to be offering me solutions to my existential struggle, or to remedy the dilemma of figuring out my purpose. In nearly all of them, I found the same thing at the center- a self-serving guru whose only joy in life is being ‘above’ other people.
Be very careful who you open up to in a spiritual setting. People tend to approach someone for a reading, for example, when they are at a vulnerable point in their lives, or having an emotional struggle. This is not the time to evaluate a spiritual advisor. This is no time for someone to make you feel small, nor is it the time for someone to tell you that you are at fault for your terrible circumstances. Be open when you are happy and free, make the connection then with someone you feel is a kindred spirit. Then, when you are in trouble, you have someone to call!
For a time, I became a student of Religious Science, as this was something I found interesting and wanted to better understand. I spent many hours at Sunday Service, and even took the Foundations class that is the beginning step to becoming a practitioner. There was a lot of ‘God is Good,’ and fluffy pink lights around every person (metaphorically speaking). It was common to hear someone begin to speak of a problem or issue, only to have their conversation partner interrupt with ‘No! You just tell yourself it’s all working out for the highest good!” That kind of advice is little help or comfort to someone who is in distress, and processing very valid emotions. I watched as a very dear friend with severe medical issues, and was desperately trying to stay positive about her plight after suffering through years of treatments, doctors, surgeries, etc., was facing the ‘accusation’ that she had something wrong in her thinking that caused all of this and it was something that needed to be fixed before she would get well. Is that what passes for compassion? Oh, but they just want to help! Yeah, that’s not helping. Invalidating her suffering- which was and is real- is not loving. No principle in the world is worth making someone feel that they are at fault when they are already knocked down a black hole.
Darkness is not the opposition of Light. It is its compliment. It is part of the whole. How can you exist as a whole, when you deem half of yourself to be incorrect?
Let me say this clearly:
You, your emotions, your path, your life… is not a mistake. God/Divinity/Spirit did not need your help to create Universe and does not need your consultation on what you deem to be incorrect.
Can you be spiritual but not fit into any of the current belief systems?
Yes You Can.
Regardless of the many classes, meet ups, groups, etc., I’ve been a part of, I belong to all of them and none of them. I do not identify with any one classification I’ve encountered. The only word that comes close to what I am, is Witch, and to many, Witch is a dangerous word.
If you are struggling to find your path, and you’ve found me, know that it is not an accident. There are others like me, but we are hard to find, and tend to find you when you need us. Drop me a line, or visit me at the Curious Cauldron. I’m here to serve.
For you GoT fans- Valar Dohaeris
Confessions of a Spirit Messenger 