How to move past blocks and into your future

There are so many different approaches and systems that are in the self-help genre, it can be difficult to choose which one is right for you.  For many of the people I’ve worked with, a sense of failure quickly follows when whatever the newest trend in self-help, and self-healing didn’t yield the results they were looking for.  This has been a sense of frustration for me, personally, over the years as well.  Until now.

What I’ve discovered is the first step to any self-help approach has to begin with self-examination.  If you had to plan a party, for example, you wouldn’t just go out and buy up whatever you saw in the party store and plop it all down on the counter.  There’s a thought process that goes into planning a party, and there’s a thought process that goes into self-healing.  After all, you could be setting up for a Bat-Mitzvah, when you wanted to end up with a Graduation party.  The process makes a BIG difference in the end result.

Step 1

Since most of who find ourselves in a pinch try to think ourselves out of it, let’s start with your thinking.  Do you even know what you’re really thinking, or what words you use most?  This is important, because so many of us are stuck in a pattern that keeps repeating because we are unaware of them.  So how do you get aware?  You need to start writing things down.  Journaling is one of those things that is recommended by almost every guru I’ve ever come across and there’s a good reason for it.  It helps you to get out your thoughts without anyone’s judgement, which can be a calming exercise.  It also gives you the opportunity to be totally honest, because this journal is not meant for anyone else to read.  This is a healing process in and of itself.  Being bottled up often leads to destructive behaviors and can lead to illness.  Human beings weren’t meant to hold things in, but we don’t necessarily need to share them with other human beings to get them out.

You may be thinking, “Can’t I just go to the gym and work out my frustrations there?” or “I meditate to get calm myself, and I think that’s enough.”  Those are valid ways of working out frustrations, and I applaud you for realizing that you are frustrated enough to actually implement a practice.  However, like the party-planning, there’s something to be said for the method and the results it yields.  You can jog until you’re too exhausted to remember why you were upset to begin with.  You can meditate and reach amazing states of altered consciousness, melting away the worries of the world.  But here’s what journaling does that other practices does not.

You may think you talked it out in your own mind while you were exercising, or you may feel you got a sense of peace from your spiritual practice, but the pen is mightier than the sword!  When you journal, you’re using the written word, which is very powerful, especially if you handwrite, because your energy is pouring out along with those words onto paper.  In addition, you are creating a written record of events, and thoughts that you may not be aware of if you simply let those thoughts pass and be on your merry way.  At first, your journal may seem like page after page of ranting. That’s okay.  We all need to do that sometimes, and it’s the first step to this process!  When you’re writing in your journal, no one can see so they cannot judge, but it’s also important for you not to judge yourself either.  Don’t think about what is right or wrong to write down.  Just think and record.  Pretend that you’re in a courtroom and you’re taking down every word that is uttered during a trial.  Doesn’t matter which ones are valid in that scenario, does it?  What’s important is the record.  It doesn’t hav to be a certain length.  When you feel you’re finished with your thoughts, you’re finished with your writing.  This process requires commitment, but it doesn’t require any set standards or rules to follow.

For those of you who are drawn to this blog and this post in particular, I’d like to ask you to give this a try for a period of 1 week.  That’s it.  Set aside a time each day where you won’t be interrupted and make sure to write once a day.  You can do more than that if you feel guided to, but once a day is usually how most people start.

Stay tuned for Part 2, and please feel free to comment here.

*I am not a licensed mental health professional, and none of what is written intended as medical or psychiatric advice. If you are having a serious issue, please seek the help of a medical or psychiatric health professional.*

Namaste.  I see you.

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~ by healingstarspirit on November 25, 2015.

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